Portlandi a wrote:
tip wrote:
This seems to be a proxy argument. Your GF might be generally wanting you to make more changes like this. Before you run out and buy a bedframe just to avoid trouble, try talking to your gf about the larger set of issues. She might not feel like the problem is addressed if you just buy the bedframe and go back to living what she thinks is a "peter pan" life. Sounds like she has judged your lifestyle negatively, and that's something to sort out.
I second this.
This is not only about the bed. This is probably about your whole lifestyle.
Make sure to figure that all out before you get married.
This is probably true. If you otherwise live/act like an adult, sleeping on a mattress on the floor would probably come across as more of a quirk than a red flag. I'd bet that she doesn't really care about the bed per se. She probably sees it as one symptom of a larger problem.
She might also just have some kind of negative association. If she has an exceptionally immature ex or sibling who shares your sleeping style, she might just latch onto that similarity as a red flag.
Either way, it's probably worth talking to her about the root of the issue.