nonfacebookuser wrote:
I don't have a facebook account. I respect every person's choice to communicate through facebook. However, why do facebook users get so annoyed when they hear that I don't have a facebook account and that I'm not interested in getting a facebook account? I barely check my email!!
Has an alcoholic ever gotten mad at you for not drinking? Pretty similar...
hellzbellz wrote:
nonfacebookuser wrote:I don't have a facebook account. I respect every person's choice to communicate through facebook. However, why do facebook users get so annoyed when they hear that I don't have a facebook account and that I'm not interested in getting a facebook account? I barely check my email!!
Has an alcoholic ever gotten mad at you for not drinking? Pretty similar...
Great analogy!
Actually it is a very poor analogy, because people who use FB may not be using it in an addictive/destructive way. It is not an obsession.
It's just a convenient way of communicating with others, hopefully about meaningful things, where you might actually learn a lot. This scenario is not negative as implied by that very poor analogy.
Skuj wrote:
Actually it is a very poor analogy, because people who use FB may not be using it in an addictive/destructive way. It is not an obsession.
It's just a convenient way of communicating with others, hopefully about meaningful things, where you might actually learn a lot. This scenario is not negative as implied by that very poor analogy.
Alcohol works in the same way. Not everybody uses it in a addictive/destructive way. It is not an obsession to everybody.
Social drinking can be a convenient way of communicating with colleagues, hopefully about meaningful things in a responsible manner, where you might actually learn a lot. This scenario is not negative as implied by that unconstructive response.
One small detail that you conveniently overlooked though: The word "alcoholic" was used in the analogy.
Nice try though.
4/10.
Skuj wrote:
One small detail that you conveniently overlooked though: The word "alcoholic" was used in the analogy.
Nice try though.
4/10.
Well I am not completely stubborn, all though you may be, I don't know. 4/10 on your first response pretty good on this one.
With all post combined, I still say that obsessive users can be like an alcoholic and they can be pushy just like one too.
There are some major pros to having an account in reasons and many of the others that have been listed earlier.
Correct the last part. There are some major pros to having an account. You have stated a few and so have a number of people before this post.
Fair enough.
I'll end my participation in this thread with the MAIN reason why FB can be a great thing:
Look at this thread and many others at letsrun! Nameless people often taking cheapshots at others. (My long time Tormentor is very active in this thread, and he has the audacity to talk about obsessions and addictions, lol.)
With FB YOU choose your friends, YOU delete posts/people you don't care for. YOU have control!!!
Cheers,
Darren Skuja.
Skuj wrote:
With FB YOU choose your friends, YOU delete posts/people you don't care for. YOU have control!!!
Cheers,
Darren Skuja.
I guarantee (although you would never admit) that 30-40%, and maybe more of your friends you rarely if ever communicate with, should be deleted from your list but you do not.
Much like video games my freshman year, I decided long ago that facebook is kind of a waste of life. I can see where some people use it as a healthy medium for interaction but some others live their life by it. On all day, everyday.
Call someone. Send them a text message. Go out to dinner or something. It's a lot better ;)
There have been numerous times in the past where I was asked about joining facebook, but didn't. Eventually I caved in about August last year, and I have to admit to being quite addicted to it.
I probably average 4 status updates a week (generally meaningless or trying to be witty comments), but AM interested in seeing what responses (if any) I get to those, or just if they are 'liked.'
I haven't bothered tying to get too many friends though and currently have just 35. One of these seems to be on there almost every time that I log on, which is on most days.
To scroll through your news updates occasionally can be relatively entertaining. I think it's a matter of restricting your time on FB - as people have said, having some self control.
I was in a relationship a little while ago and the daughter of the woman I was seeing totally cracked it at me once and posted on my wall, which was a good example of the problems that FB can cause. Although the relationship ended, her post didn't cause any actual problems because later that day she deleted me as a friend and this removed the post.
I realise now that I could have deleted it myself too!
Yes, FB can be a waste of time. But if I wasn't on FB maybe I'd just be wasting my time anyway? Letsrun is a little more interesting because people can make lengthy posts, but people can and do still spend a lot of time on here (I went through a phase in 2007 when I was reading stuff on here daily, but have largely disappeared since then apart from perhaps a glance every month or two). The internet in general can help greatly in improving people's knowledge of basically anything, but it is filled with things that can be considered time wasting, such as anything to do with masturbation. And is this post a waste of my time? And is the brief time that I take to check for any responses to it a waste of time too?
As has been pretty much summed up by about the first half of posts that I've read, Facebook can be a postive and a negative. The key is not to spend too much time on it.
007 wrote:
Much like video games my freshman year, I decided long ago that facebook is kind of a waste of life. I can see where some people use it as a healthy medium for interaction but some others live their life by it. On all day, everyday.
Call someone. Send them a text message. Go out to dinner or something. It's a lot better ;)
do any of you people who say things like this over and over in this thread on a message board see anything ironic at all?
facebook is on a different level. this site is at least oriented toward running which is what i come here for.
weingartner wrote:
There is a lot to say about facebook. I got into it my freshman year in college five years ago. As of two days ago, I elected to finally dump it. I sent an e-mail to
privacy@facebook.com. I recently got an e-mail saying that the process to permanently delete was underway and will be finished in no more than 14 days.
It was not a tough decision. It was rather an overdue move that was the result of an impulsive decision. I could have left facebook much earlier, as I was aware of the terrible effect it was having on my psyche not long after joining it. But my delay was due to my addiction to facebook. During my time as a member, I wanted to stay aboard in the event I missed something if I left (i.e. an unexpected friend or family member of mine joining facebook). Or an opportunity to post a photo album down the road which may lead to lots of comments and subsequent "fame" amongst the facebook community. The latter motivation seems a bit out there, but is inevitably a factor into why many people seem to stay on facebook. Facebook is, after all, a popularity contest.
I was the type of facebooker that created a status every day or two. I am aware that a healthy medium may have been reached with some thoughtfulness, like many achieve, where use is far more seldom. This method still allows for remaining in contact with friends without the need to be in everyone's faces all the time in their newsfeeds. But, my personality is that - I thrive off of getting peoples' attention. I don't mean this in a bad way. I used to write about many different things which resulted in, mainly, the same types of people responding. I almost felt like I needed to live up to the image I was creating for others to banter with. While I did not lie or embellish my outside life to my facebook friends, I did feel an obligation to the people who kept responding (often family) and those whom I had some meaningful friendship with in the outside world to prolong my communication with them in the event that if I seemed too aloof they'd drop me as a friend. I am not terrified by the prospect of being unfriended, but I am not the type who likes to burn bridges either, especially if it's avoidable.
At the end of the day, these extremely trivial fears caused me to become overwhelmed with friends, friends' lives, and the overall culture that defines facebook. Why did I spend days - weeks - maybe even months of my life on facebook? I really don't think I got anything beneficial out of it. I say the people who "get" facebook use it as merely a supplement to a flourishing social life instead of as a substitute. I have people who I regularly communicate with outside of facebook, so I am not removed from actual social interaction. But it did become a means to shoot the **** to an extent where I became concerned about people and lives that otherwise had no effect on me.
Once again, as a disclaimer, I know there are smarter people than me who know how to use facebook properly. But does anyone else feel detested with the culture of facebook? How it has the power to eat away at your sanity because of people and comments that promote gossip and negativity rather than what they should be promoting? Anyone feel me on this? Part of my dismay may also be the effect of the types of people I'm connected to.
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weingartner wrote:
There is a lot to say about facebook. I got into it my freshman year in college five years ago. As of two days ago, I elected to finally dump it. I sent an e-mail to
privacy@facebook.com. I recently got an e-mail saying that the process to permanently delete was underway and will be finished in no more than 14 days.
It was not a tough decision. It was rather an overdue move that was the result of an impulsive decision. I could have left facebook much earlier, as I was aware of the terrible effect it was having on my psyche not long after joining it. But my delay was due to my addiction to facebook. During my time as a member, I wanted to stay aboard in the event I missed something if I left (i.e. an unexpected friend or family member of mine joining facebook). Or an opportunity to post a photo album down the road which may lead to lots of comments and subsequent "fame" amongst the facebook community. The latter motivation seems a bit out there, but is inevitably a factor into why many people seem to stay on facebook. Facebook is, after all, a popularity contest.
I was the type of facebooker that created a status every day or two. I am aware that a healthy medium may have been reached with some thoughtfulness, like many achieve, where use is far more seldom. This method still allows for remaining in contact with friends without the need to be in everyone's faces all the time in their newsfeeds. But, my personality is that - I thrive off of getting peoples' attention. I don't mean this in a bad way. I used to write about many different things which resulted in, mainly, the same types of people responding. I almost felt like I needed to live up to the image I was creating for others to banter with. While I did not lie or embellish my outside life to my facebook friends, I did feel an obligation to the people who kept responding (often family) and those whom I had some meaningful friendship with in the outside world to prolong my communication with them in the event that if I seemed too aloof they'd drop me as a friend. I am not terrified by the prospect of being unfriended, but I am not the type who likes to burn bridges either, especially if it's avoidable.
At the end of the day, these extremely trivial fears caused me to become overwhelmed with friends, friends' lives, and the overall culture that defines facebook. Why did I spend days - weeks - maybe even months of my life on facebook? I really don't think I got anything beneficial out of it. I say the people who "get" facebook use it as merely a supplement to a flourishing social life instead of as a substitute. I have people who I regularly communicate with outside of facebook, so I am not removed from actual social interaction. But it did become a means to shoot the **** to an extent where I became concerned about people and lives that otherwise had no effect on me.
Once again, as a disclaimer, I know there are smarter people than me who know how to use facebook properly. But does anyone else feel detested with the culture of facebook? How it has the power to eat away at your sanity because of people and comments that promote gossip and negativity rather than what they should be promoting? Anyone feel me on this? Part of my dismay may also be the effect of the types of people I'm connected to.
You got issues btw. Facebook doesnt need people who cant handle it like you.
WHOOOOOOOOPSSSSS... I just dropped my magnum condom.
I feel like the most fun way to delete your facebook, rather than just emailing Facebook or deactivating it, would be to post as much porn as possible until facebook bans you lol
Eating a muffin and playing my guitar. Boo yah. What up FB friends? LMAO. Another update coming soon. PEACE
Got out last year. A door to ID theft and the Chinese can learn all your secrets.