Was I wrong to take off my wedding ring?

im beginning to believe that this is a ploy.

i can't believe i read all that shit.

here's my take. you were married for 8 months? she wasn't completely over some other guy - either boinked him right before the wedding or a couple months ago. you took off your ring and she could no longer contain it. she feels guilty. she made a mistake. now it's time for you to do what you'd expect her to do if the rolls were reversed. end it, or you will be a victim to this again.

ps. i was once told "once a slut, always a slut"

i didn't believe the girl that told me that.

she was right, my girlfriend at the time slept with 3 guys in 2 weeks, luckily i found out really quickly.

CrazyStory wrote:

Sounds like you are talking to and asking the advice of EVERYONE, BUT your wife. Which is really the only person you should be putting your effort into right now. Meeting with a lawyer 3 days after the incident? Sounds a little stupid to me. Obviously, you do not care too much about your marriage if you're just going to let it fall apart before your eyes without making much effort other than emptying out your bank account. You should have never gotten married.

Take advice from the nut job that walked out on him because he took off his ring for legitimate reasons? This is the worst advice ever. Yes, meeting with a lawyer three days after this was extremely smart. She is not acting rationally. If you are not proactive and take steps to protect yourself, a crazy women can destroy your entire life.

He wanted to work it out but she is the one who won't talk to him, and said she wanted out. I'd say the she drew the line in the sand and all he can do now is damage control. Emptying out his bank account was the second smartest thing he did, with first being talking to the lawyer.

Question for you hot shot, how can he work on his marriage if she won't talk to him and refuses to act rationally? Would you want to be married to someone like that?

any updates?

Neliah1059 wrote:

I'm a female and I find it infuriating that you can't solve simple arguments with other females because they will argue over anything instead of just addressing the simple questions/problems at hand and thinking about their behavior/reactions in a rational manner.

Will you marry me?

I cant believe I read the whole thing!!!

holy shit i just read this entire thread from beginning to end. i need a nap.

EdP wrote:

Marriage is perfect? You must be speaking from a view point of religion. Things do not always get better. Maybe temporarily. I have three real examples for you.

he was convicted and was sent to jail for 10 years and is now on the sex offender registry.

he was convicted of sexual assault and sentenced to 5 years and is now on the sex offender registry.

You know TWO people who went to jail on false rape charges?!?!? Either BS or you need new friends.

MarriedGirl wrote:

Marriage is perfect, people aren't.

OK, people are not perfect, we all agree on that. But I'll actually have to agree with EdP here...what is this marriage is perfect shit? Marriage, by definition, CANNOT be perfect since it is agreed upon by, created by, and maintained by two imperfect people. Marriage is perfect, people arent? That's like saying the government is perfect but the elected officials running it aren't. I will agree that marriage is tough and that it requires both parties to work to make it happy and fulfilling. And yes, it can be happy and fulfilling. It is this coming together of two imperfect people to make something like a lifelong committment work that is worth praising here, not the "perfection of marriage" or whatever other bs line you've had drilled in your head. Obviously I am not religulous, but still see the sanctity in marriage and the worth of making it work. But believing that marriage is perfect just because you've been taught that puts you in quite the vulnerable position, i feel.

Did you say "boinked" hahaha

What is "religulous", a combination of religion and ridiculous? Sounds about right.

some runner wrote:

You know TWO people who went to jail on false rape charges?!?!? Either BS or you need new friends.

A friend of mine spent a week in jail on false rape charges. It seems outrageous, but EdP is right. All it takes is a crazy woman to make up rape charges, and there are plenty of crazies, men and women, roaming your neighborhood. Cross the wrong woman, and your ass will be tossed in the slammer immediately on her word alone while the police and lawyers work out the details.

If the little woman sez you wuz rong, you wuz rong! Just confess, buy her something expensive to make up for the faux pas and swear to God never to do it again. You might be able to scrape by but no guarantees....

some runner wrote:

OK, people are not perfect, we all agree on that. But I'll actually have to agree with EdP here...what is this marriage is perfect shit? Marriage, by definition, CANNOT be perfect since it is agreed upon by, created by, and maintained by two imperfect people.

Nobody is perfect.

I am a nobody.

Therefore, I am perfect!

Seriously, I can't believe the legs this thread has had. If this guy is trolling us, he may be the best ever. Many posts on this thread begin with something like, "This guy is probably a troll, but just in case he's not..."

After following this thread all week, the op at least better make up a conclusion.

best LR NRR threads are trolls

some runner wrote:

You know TWO people who went to jail on false rape charges?!?!? Either BS or you need new friends.

I actually only know one. My roommate from my freshman year of college. The second one was someone my wife knew. No, before you ask my wife is not the one who claimed he raped her. It is unfortunate, but as another poster also alluded to, all it takes is the accusation from a women and you get locked up. If you can't afford a good attorney, like the two unfortunate souls I wrote about earlier, you could very well be SOL. Even with a good attorney, put a crying women on the stand and any man could get sent to jail by a jury.

Ed

Ok I made it to the end!!! Almost didnt make it when 'neliah' and 'here it comes' turned this thread into their own personal high school flirt feast but here I am anxiously waiting to see how the story ends. This is better than TV...hopefully it is NOT real though as the OP is in a sorry state.

To the OP: Hang in there man, tough times ahead

or if a troll:

Very nice, but please please either take credit for it and let us know you are a troll or keep this thing rolling!!!!!!

bump?

To prematurely quit a masterful trolling job is one of the most dishonorable things one can do in life.

Of course, if he's NOT a troll...perhaps the psycho woman killed him?

Hey assbreath , Just what the phuk is "SOL" ?