I'm not sure what you're referring to, but I'm not the shut-off type. I don't make silly threats with no follow-thru in that regard either. As it turns out I don't need to. Hoping you'll experience the joy of a solid relationship someday Mrs. M. Third times a charm they say.
BTW, your story seems a little far-fetched, unrealistic and unrecognizable. Are you sure you have the facts straight? It would be tragically whorifying if you were wrong.