Any married couples been in the 100 day club?

uioyuioyiuo wrote:

I'm not a big fan of sex when it's her time of month. She won't let me do her in the rear so it's just a bloody mess if we do it. I'll pass on the 100 day in a row thing.

From the rear, baby, from the rear.

You have the wrong definition for this 100 day club. It's not to have sex every day for 100 days . . . the correct definition is that you join this club when you have not had sex for 100 days. Most people would not want to be in this club.

The people who wrote a book about it decided to have sex every day for 100 days, and one of their summary points was that even though some days the act of maving love was routine, or hard to get in the mood, overall it helped their relationship because it was anther way of spending more time together. Read the book for more details?

Anyway, my goal is to stay off this club. Another goal is to not have a sexless marriage, which by some definitions is having sex less than 8-10 times per year.

I'm guessing that the frequency of sex for couples in a relationship is affected by many factors; however, I believe that if having sex is rare and you're under age 65, then some of those factors need attention. One philosophy is that men view sex as a way to get closer to their partner, and women view sex as something to do after they feel closer to their partner. Hope this helps clarify the definition of this 100 Day Club.

Flagpole wrote:

Stamina Stan wrote:

If married sex really is making love, then it has to involve much more than the physical act. It must be done in the context of romance - the mood must be right, the desire should be mutual (to some extent), etc.

Is your middle name 'Nancy'?

I guess I didn't check back on this thread 3 years ago but thanks for backing me up, Flagpole.

Love, romance and mood aren't typical guy words.

On a side note, I made it 7 days in a row with my wife of 10 years recently and considered it a big victory.

Have to give thanks to "50 Shades of Grey".

100 would never happen but I would never turn down the chance to try.

100 days in a row is a LOT. We've had some streaks in our marriage, but nothing approaching that.

X-Runner wrote:

Flagpole wrote:

Is your middle name 'Nancy'?

I guess I didn't check back on this thread 3 years ago but thanks for backing me up, Flagpole.

Love, romance and mood aren't typical guy words.

On a side note, I made it 7 days in a row with my wife of 10 years recently and considered it a big victory.

Have to give thanks to "50 Shades of Grey".

100 would never happen but I would never turn down the chance to try.

Flagpole wrote:

100 days in a row is a LOT. We've had some streaks in our marriage, but nothing approaching that.

X-Runner wrote:

I guess I didn't check back on this thread 3 years ago but thanks for backing me up, Flagpole.

Love, romance and mood aren't typical guy words.

On a side note, I made it 7 days in a row with my wife of 10 years recently and considered it a big victory.

Have to give thanks to "50 Shades of Grey".

100 would never happen but I would never turn down the chance to try.

100 days is nothing. Are you joking?

Whatever floats your boat brother. I'm sure the desire spectrum has a wide range, and I'm probably actually toward the HIGH end of that, but 100 days in a row? At some point in there I'd rather watch a movie and talk about it as we fall asleep.

James Orange wrote:

Flagpole wrote:

100 days in a row is a LOT. We've had some streaks in our marriage, but nothing approaching that.

100 days is nothing. Are you joking?

WTF are you complaining about?

I'd like to do the 100 days thing if I could have 100 different women. Hell even 50, go up the ladder then back down the ladder.

what? wifey has to woo you & romance you in order to get you to have sex? Not exactly John Wayne are ya, sport?

cisco wrote:

I'd like to do the 100 days thing if I could have 100 different women. Hell even 50, go up the ladder then back down the ladder.

The perfect week was hard enough, no way you could do 100!

Wow, long thread. I'll chime in to say that while 100 would probably never happen, my wife and I did one month (February). it was a leap-year, so we did 29 days in a row.

We made it kind of fun. It was the only time since our honeymoon that she has worn serious lingerie. She wore one of those stockings/garter getups a few times. I think she since got rid of it, I always try to find it.

One other thing we did was take advantage of the local American Apparel store. There is some strange stuff in there that is pretty sexy. I got her some gold, lame boy shorts that she wore for me.

I won't go into any more details, but you can make it really fun if you want to. It certainly isn't a chore. We loved it. The problem is that life gets in the way. I am going to go home and suggest that we do it again. It really does help your relationship outside of the bedroom.

FWIW, here are the shorts:

http://store.americanapparel.net/product/index.jsp?productId=rsac301&c=lam%C3%A9%20gold

OP: If she wants to have sex with you because she wants to have sex that often and not because she feels like she has to, then you two don't sound sexually compatible. There are plenty of women in the world who are as dry as a desert and want it only once a month. Find one of them.

I think you are so bothered by this because you are reading into it as her effort to manipulate your relationship. Now therein lies the problem. You could be paranoid. Dude, maybe she just wants to have more sex with you?

I read this to my wife. She agreed with me. This was written by a woman posing as a man.

Noone Again wrote:

1) Make her feel like the most beautiful woman in the world every single time

2) Take care of her sexually first (yours is easy - focus on her)

3) I guarantee if you just follow 1 and 2 you will never go without again.

^This is actually correct.

I'm surprised that someone else on this site knows this to be true.

And if you ever tell her she is unattractive, you've ruined it. Words can only be forgiven, not forgotten. It's the equivalent to a woman telling a guy that his package isn't big enough to please her. It kills any desire to ever have sex with the person again and makes you eager to be with someone who can appreciate.

I just realized this was an old, bumped thread. However, my 3 cents:

1) agree with posters that think that the OP's first post sounds like it was written by a women (just because of the style and certain words used)

2) however, as contradictory as this might appear, I agree with OP and others that 100 days in a row with your wife of many years is not something I've done, likely will do, or likely want to do.

3) agree that 100 days in a row with different women of your choice would be a piece of cake and a dream come true (pun sort of intended. )

4) guys who think it "takes a lot out of you" and could hurt your running? What kind of positions are you doing? Are you carrying her around as you hump her? Are you trying to be like Sting and last 8 hours? Sure, sometimes it's good go "long", but... if all it has to be is: Wham, bam, thank you ma'am....done and done. Doesn't take anything out of you (well, figuratively speaking it doesn't).

5) to the women who say it wouldn't be bad......sure.....even though I just said it isn't too much hard work for us if we don't want it to be, all YOU Have to do is lay there if you want. Hell, you could be asleep practically.

6) If I remember correctly, you once defined what it takes to a "real man". Should you include: "not turning your wife down, or letting her down, if she requests sex for 100 straight nights" ? If so, would you make the cut?

why the hell do you think this? your life is not some sappy movie where you're going to have this fantastic romantic candlelight dinner with the wife & then carry here to a bed full of roses pedals and make sweet love to her...gag me!you've been watching too much doctor phil or oprah or some shizz...i'm glad i'm not married cuz the sex sounds BORING! spontaneous dirty nasty rough sex is more fun!...but you probably wouldn't remember.

Stamina Stan wrote:

If married sex really is making love, then it has to involve much more than the physical act. It must be done in the context of romance - the mood must be right,

bonner jams '07 wrote:

i'm glad i'm not married cuz the sex sounds BORING! spontaneous dirty nasty rough sex is more fun!...but you probably wouldn't remember.

I might be wrong, but I feel like this happens more now that I am married. Usually on vacation or something. It never happened prior to getting married. Sex was always something at the end of the night, whereas now sex is a bit more random. I like that. I am not sure it is nasty, but I don't really know what qualifies as nasty. I mean, we don't eat feces and stuff like that, but we get down.