POW wrote:
... Remember you were looking at her old letters because you love her and want to know more about her...
One of the all-time most hilarious things ever said on LRC.
POW wrote:
... Remember you were looking at her old letters because you love her and want to know more about her...
One of the all-time most hilarious things ever said on LRC.
oldmarriedguy wrote:
...That being said, she shouldn't be keeping old letters in a box anyway unless it still means A LOT to her. Usually this means she still has feelings for her ex and is not ready to "move on". IF she is ready to move on, then she should be ready to share those letters with you...
The rest of your note was ok but this ^ is just flat out wrong.
Damned near every woman is sentimental about old letters, cards, pictures, diaries...and prefers to keep them to herself - which is certainly her right.
Having old letters in a box does not mean the old relationship means alot to her. It most certainly does not mean that she still has feelings for her ex. And if you think that you should be demanding to have such letters shared with you then you have some serious control issues.
You should guilt trip her into letting you give it to her in the ass. If she's this uptight about sex, chances are she didn't let the first guy give her any corn hole love.
You can tell her you respect the fact she doesn't want you pounding her hole but she should respect your needs and give you something for your trouble. Make her think you're "settling" for her ass. Then you can take out your frustrations on her that way.
You'll really be doing her a favor anyway. If any needs a good hard ass f ucking, it's this lying whore you're dating.
oldmarriedguy wrote:
AND sex is NOT overrated. At some point your significant other will do something to p!ss you off. My wife still does now and then, but I just think to myself "she has nice b**bs and she sw@llows" and then I forgive her. It helps keep conflicts to a minimum.
Awesome perspective!
muslims dont play baseball wrote:
You should guilt trip her into letting you give it to her in the ass. If she's this uptight about sex, chances are she didn't let the first guy give her any corn hole love.
You can tell her you respect the fact she doesn't want you pounding her hole but she should respect your needs and give you something for your trouble. Make her think you're "settling" for her ass. Then you can take out your frustrations on her that way.
You'll really be doing her a favor anyway. If any needs a good hard ass f ucking, it's this lying whore you're dating.
^ Remarkably stupid post by a remarkably stupid human being.
stuck with match.com wrote:
Its BS he was looking because he was snooping. If you have to snoop at a person because you don't trust them you shouldn't be marrying them.
Trust, but verify. Women have nothing but contempt for men who let them get away with things because they're so happy they (finally) have a girlfriend. That is to say, women have nothing but contempt for guys like stuck with match.com.
You probably weren't her first and you won't be her last.
Giver her a dutch oven every night.
2222222 wrote:
stuck with match.com wrote:Its BS he was looking because he was snooping. If you have to snoop at a person because you don't trust them you shouldn't be marrying them.
Trust, but verify. Women have nothing but contempt for men who let them get away with things because they're so happy they (finally) have a girlfriend. That is to say, women have nothing but contempt for guys like stuck with match.com.
Women have nothing but contempt for men who go sneaking and snooping.
i'd just like to point out that before i posted this, the number of replies was at 69. that amused me.
OP,
You should find a way to reasonably and accurately describe to your girlfriend the suspicions that led you to open that box because there was obviously something to your misgivings.
If you don't talk out this deception now, there is a chance(not a guarantee) that this mistrust will fester and resurface when the stakes are far; far higher as in kids and property and when you and the GF are much older.
How you as a couple deal with the deception on both sides will tell you alot about the likely durability of a marriage because even very happy marriages run up against big, big, big disagreements.
yoyo x wrote:
i'd just like to point out that before i posted this, the number of replies was at 69. that amused me.
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ask her why she lied, then pulled the "you lied about being a virgin" card when ever you want to do anythign....go out with the guys, skip out on dinner, watch a game, etc.
olderpolygamousguy wrote:
oldmarriedguy wrote:...That being said, she shouldn't be keeping old letters in a box anyway unless it still means A LOT to her. Usually this means she still has feelings for her ex and is not ready to "move on". IF she is ready to move on, then she should be ready to share those letters with you...
The rest of your note was ok but this ^ is just flat out wrong.
Damned near every woman is sentimental about old letters, cards, pictures, diaries...and prefers to keep them to herself - which is certainly her right.
Having old letters in a box does not mean the old relationship means alot to her. It most certainly does not mean that she still has feelings for her ex. And if you think that you should be demanding to have such letters shared with you then you have some serious control issues.
The point is that it's the HIDING stuff that indicates she isn't over her ex. She can keep stuff, I keep stuff and my wife has a boxed up collection of her old stuff. The point is that she isn't hiding it from me, it's in relatively plain view in the garage. She showed me pictures of her high school BF, her ex-husband, etc. Granted we were in our 30's when we met, so we have a better idea of what being "over it" means.
Even back in college, a lot of girls would share their old prom pictures-very sentimental, almost always with a guy they've broken up with after high school.
If she is over it, then she should be able to explain it as "this a guy who's heart I broke and keep this as a trophy" in a joking non-serious manner. Or if she wants to be semi-serious about it, then she can say "I keep this as a reminder of who I was and how far I have come as a human being" blah blah blah. If she gets all psycho about it, guess what, she isn't over it.
oldmarriedguy wrote:
The point is that it's the HIDING stuff that indicates she isn't over her ex. She can keep stuff, I keep stuff and my wife has a boxed up collection of her old stuff. The point is that she isn't hiding it from me, it's in relatively plain view in the garage. She showed me pictures of her high school BF, her ex-husband, etc. Granted we were in our 30's when we met, so we have a better idea of what being "over it" means.
Even back in college, a lot of girls would share their old prom pictures-very sentimental, almost always with a guy they've broken up with after high school.
If she is over it, then she should be able to explain it as "this a guy who's heart I broke and keep this as a trophy" in a joking non-serious manner. Or if she wants to be semi-serious about it, then she can say "I keep this as a reminder of who I was and how far I have come as a human being" blah blah blah. If she gets all psycho about it, guess what, she isn't over it.
No, hiding stuff indicates that she knows not to trust you to respect her privacy.
And, while it is in no way a given that she will get "all psycho about it", if she does, she is getting "all psycho" about you invading her privacy.
You seriously have control issues. And your wife? Well, let's just say she is truly pathetic if she has put up with you for any length of time.
oldmarriedguy wrote:
If she is over it, then she should be able to explain it as "this a guy who's heart I broke and keep this as a trophy" in a joking non-serious manner. Or if she wants to be semi-serious about it, then she can say "I keep this as a reminder of who I was and how far I have come as a human being" blah blah blah. If she gets all psycho about it, guess what, she isn't over it.
Geez, every time you post I feel sorrier for your wife.
Your impressions related to why women keep or don't keep old pictures and letters is grossly skewed. Do you actually know women who keep mementos of dumped guys as "trophies"? Or as barometers of their emotional maturity?
I keep most personal letters (one exception) whether they're from old lovers or high school girlfriends. In the Internet age, people correspond differently...more haphazardly. I think more care used to be taken when people wrote a letter in ink on a piece of stationary, or in a card. While I rarely have a reason to look at them, I'm glad I have them. They're part of my history, and keeping them has nothing to do with how I feel about those old boyfriends currently, they're just a record of things that have happened in my life, good or bad. I wish people still wrote thoughtful letters rather than the crap you see on Facebook.
thejets wrote:
1) She told me she was a virgin, so yes, she did lie to me.
She's crazy. She may hide it well, but deep down she's crazy.
i took her ass cherry.............
NO. get out of the 17th century.
Maybe she made mistakes in the past and really regrets them and lied about her virginity so she wont be seen as trash. You should wait till ur married to have sex. If u don't agree with me then ur stupid.
We all have a past.
The older we get, the longer the list.The trick is to accept that and get on with life otherwise you will only beat yourself up and become bitter and twisted.
I suspect you have some sort of religious background which will make acceptance very difficult for you.