Anybody else 40 and not married?

To all those who keep posting that I must be gay, I'm not.

To all those who post and say you can have a great life as a single, maybe that's true, but I don't feel that way. I look at people happily married and I feel jealous. I want to connect with somebody, I want to have that. Without trying to be whiney, sometimes I feel lonely. I tell people how great my single life is with all its freedom (I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me)but the truth is I feel something is missing.

To all those who post and say I must have some defect in my personality....lately I have been wondering about that...maybe I do. I used to date quite a bit, was popular, but immature. I would hate to commit and be pinned down to anything. I now occasionally see some very nice girls that I used to date now happily married with families. Its weird that I let so many opportunities slip away. I alway felt that I would be missing something better if I stayed too long in a relationship.

Ironic.

Not all girls are trampy sluts. Some maintain their virginity until marriage.

curious. wrote:

rojosenior wrote:

I'm on my way...mid 30s. Dating a virgin right now, if you can believe that. Will I hang in, marry her, and pop the cherry? Stay tuned.

How old is she? 14? Girls older than that are not virgins.

High standards, actually, unlike you.

von trapp wrote:

if you are fit, 40+, and unmarried, you are at least one of the following:

self-centered, immature, homely, have an annoying personality, or ghey.

face facts, and take comfort in your next PR.

You just implied that everyone over 40 who is not married is gay.

WATCH IT, SLANDERER!!!!

in the 1950s

FWIW, I have experienced a lot. Worked and trained all over Europe for years before taking my current job in the US. I was in the Peace Corps, saw some cool stuff, met some great girls.

About a decade ago i got married and have loved every minute of it. The only thing better than my wife are my children.

I can see where if you are the type of person who only cares about yourself, children would be hard. And they are hard, very hard. It is also the most amazing thing you can ever do.

There is nothing on this earth I treasure more than my children.

I understand people who don't want kids though, people are made for different things, and some folks have other priorities. A lot of people who have kids shouldn't have them, the world would be a better place if fewer people had kids.

say its not so wrote:

I alway felt that I would be missing something better if I stayed too long in a relationship.

Ironic.

sounds like you nailed the issue. i have a 43 year old female friend who is also struggling with being single at this age but she doesn't ever commit to any event with friends. it's like she is always waiting to see if something better comes along. if she protrays that with everyone, i can see why she is still single.

if you want to meet someone, think about what you like to do with your time. do you just hang out after a run and watch tv on the weekends? volunteer at an event or for an organization, you'd be surprised at how this changes your view of yourself and how others view you.

me

rojosenior wrote:

I'm on my way...mid 30s. Dating a virgin right now, if you can believe that. Will I hang in, marry her, and pop the cherry? Stay tuned.

Are you dating a 13 year old? That´s disguisting!