She is, actually. She would tell you as much.
She is, actually. She would tell you as much.
who cares man?
enjoy being who you are and do the things you want to do. Contrary to popular belief there simply isn't "someone for everyone". Doesn't mean your defective or anything.
Have fun, don't stress the "supposed to's" and other bs that society tries to squash you with.
I was 42 when I met my wife. Got married when I was 45 and she was 33. I'd been in a long dry spell and wasn't really looking when suddenly she came into my life. I'd pretty much resigned myself to bachelorhood; now, we're trying for our first child.
rojosenior wrote:
She is, actually. She would tell you as much.
My three year old would gladly tell me about the Easter Bunny. It would be equally believable.
You shouldn't have let him read the "Post-Nuptial Shutoff?" thread
same here wrote:
I'm 41 and not married. I've been with my boyfriend for several years, but he doesn't want to get married. I thought I was OK with that, and just realized that I am not. Not sure what to do. He's a great guy but I don't like to feel so uncertain about the future.
All I can do is pity you because that must mean that your world experience really sucks. The lines you trot out are the platitudes that people tell themselves just to deal with what a hassle it is. It's an amazingly myopic point of view, so go figure that you're self-righteous.
actual facts wrote:
RTI wrote:Not a big deal, beats settling and raising kids ... Seems like a dumb ritual that only costs you money that could have been spent on really worthwhile things, such as traveling or education or a mail-order bride.
Since you have no kids, you have no authority when speaking about raising kids. I have both raised kids and been single/married without kids, so I can speak from experience. Very little, if anything (including staying single and childless), in this world beats raising kids, but I'm glad you are not doing it.
Kettle. Pot.
Dont do the child thing dude. You will regret it. My wife and I are happily married for 18 years. No kids and we love the freedom we have. He see a lot of people with kids and believe me there are 2 things they have in common; they are miserable and broke.
I'm not self-righteous, I didn't say that everyone should be like me and not have kids.
I didn't see him say that either, but wow, I could write that exact same thing to you and it would apply. You're trying to judge someone on something you've never experienced and then telling them you feel pity because they have. I would call that myopic (also, the fact he's speaking from both sides of the equation shows he has both perspectives. You, on the other hand, are speaking from one perspective, one lens, if you will, which I think would fit the definition of myopic). And the lines you "trot out" are the same ones that all the people who don't have kids/never raised kids before trot out. "Oh it's too expensive" or "I just enjoy the freedom" etc, etc. You've never done it, so those may or may not be true. To each their own after all, but don't go trying to act all high and mighty because you don't have children, and then judge someone else because they do.
He said I had zero authority on raising kids. I know what it takes, I wasn't an only child and as an adult I've never had friends who didn't have kids. My decision is anything but an uninformed one. I didn't judge jack shit, I only said what I'd rather do. I didn't say it's too expensive, I said that I thought that the money would be better spent on other things. The world won't survive or fall apart based on whether or not I, you, or anyone else reading this chooses to raise kids. Dogs, cats, pigs, monkeys, and any other animal doesn't have offspring for the alleged rewards that come from raising young. It's a biological imperative and that's all it is despite the church and society trying to drape it with some greater, profound meaning. Look at the animal world, seducing a mate and having offspring is a point of pride, so why would it really be so different for humans? Any dumbfuck can pop out and bring up kids, it's nothing special and it's sure not a miracle.
It sounds like you are looking for some pristine and attractive 35-42 year old woman that has been sitting on the shelf just for you. Good luck with that!
rojosenior wrote:
I'm on my way...mid 30s. Dating a virgin right now, if you can believe that. Will I hang in, marry her, and pop the cherry? Stay tuned.
How old is she? 14? Girls older than that are not virgins.
I'm 32 and married and see the building pressure of 'adult-hood' for some of my bros. It's not even the 'I'm old I should be married' thing, its the 'the field is dwindling rapidly and I'm getting frustrated' thing. I see it similarly to running into old friends from school that are now practicing physicians, or friends running for office, and the urge to make self-judgmental self-comparisons. At 32 those things begin to mean something depending on where you might stand. It's weird that you can sense some of the single guys and especially the gals begin to grow uncomfortable with dating even though the source of awkwardness is perception rather than anything tangible.
All that being said, and anyone deprived of meaningful companionship will dismiss this off-hand, but marriage for marriage sake is unbelievably insane. My wife is the coolest chic I'll ever meet, and she's hot, but the nagging and meaningless complaints are beyond the limit I'd have ever expected or would admit un-anonymously to a real person. Count your blessings.
if you are fit, 40+, and unmarried, you are at least one of the following:
self-centered, immature, homely, have an annoying personality, or ghey.
face facts, and take comfort in your next PR.
hinckley wrote:
Just turned 50. After having a great relationship and then hwatching it end, I simply prepared myself for being single for the durtion.
Plus the older I get, the more I realize that a dog is a man's best friend!
Oh man, this is so true!!! I divorced six years ago. Women to me are an open well of water to drink from whenever I want. I love the physicalness, but relationships???? Why would you want a relationship with a crazy lady? Just keep laying those 23 year olds (you lucky dog you) and keep them at a distance as to not get pinned down. I got my dog and just like the poster above, a dog IS man's best friend. Trust me.
Expert not wrote:
Oh man, this is so true!!! I divorced six years ago. Women to me are an open well of water to drink from whenever I want. I love the physicalness, but relationships???? Why would you want a relationship with a crazy lady? Just keep laying those 23 year olds (you lucky dog you) and keep them at a distance as to not get pinned down. I got my dog and just like the poster above, a dog IS man's best friend. Trust me.
you sound like one of those delusional 50 year olds that comes up and tries to hit on my 25 yr old girlfriend or her friends at the bar when he thinks i'm not looking, thinking he's actually got a chance. in fact, you're just the creepy old guy that they want to go away. no one cares you've got a porsche. you're old and creepy. for god's sake spare us your stories about the time you travelled to europe on a business trip and try finding some women your own age.
I don't see why anybody my age (39) or older would want to date somebody in thier early-mid 20s. Not for me. Youngest I've actually dates is about 35. Rule of 7s means I could go as low as 26 but the thought of it is not appealing, what could I possible have in common with a 26 yr. old?
I always heard that the rule was +/-4 years. So if I am 30, then I can date 26 thur 34 year olds. That way you have something in common to speak about.