Out of respect for her husband wrote:
Trust is gone
No doubt that's true for you.
Out of respect for her husband wrote:
Trust is gone
No doubt that's true for you.
Well now. My first reaction when I saw my wife had her ring off was, "she's having an affair." It's a natural reaction for anyone newly married especially female. But I'm a guy married for 16 years!!! So if I react that way you can expect a newly married female to react ten times worse. Maybe I'm just paranoid.
But,the old bag still has not put on her ring for several months. Not sure if that means the affair is still ongoing (if she was having one at all) but you'd think by now whatever skin rash (oh, yeah, it's always a rash ;) she had on her left hand has cleared up by now. By the way it's not uncommon for married men to go ringless but VERY uncommon for married women.
In a lot of trouble wrote:
Well I've landed myself in hot water with the misses of only 8 months and the situation is getting totally blown out of proportion on her end I believe. I have pretty sensitive skin. About a week ago the inside of my ring finger was itching me like crazy. There was a rash, I lost skin from the scratching, etc. Finally I took my ring off so I could clean out the area and put an over the counter oitment on it. I also purchased some ring cleaner to clean my ring up, thinking there might be some bacteria on it. My wife knew my finger was irritated but never said anything. Well when she came home she FREAKED out that I took the ring off. She acted as if I fu**ed another chick. I tried explaining to her the situation clamly. She stormed out of the house, spent the night at a friends. When I came home from work the next day she had packed most of her clothes and said it was over. WTF, in hindsight the way she is acting is it good this happened because this is totally irrational behavior? I love her, but I didn't think she would react like this.
I never read the other threads, but if what you say is true, let her leave and start living a great life.
Be prepared to put at least 1/2 the checking and savings accounts in your name only. If you don't do this then she will transfer all of them to her name.
My take on this situation is not that she is cheating, but that the wife thinks the OP is cheating. If she has believed this for some time, his taking off the ring may have been the last straw for her.
My advice to the OP is to continue attempts to discuss the issue until you can get to the crux of the problem. Be compassionate, she may have misinterpreted a previous event and developed false conclusions that have been festering and finally erupted when you took off the ring.
In answer to the OP's thread-headlining question: No. You were not wrong to take off your wedding ring? By itself and without context, the action means nothing.
The real question is why your wife freaked out. I'm sorry to say this, but you've got an awfully long road back to marital harmony--if in fact you ever enjoyed marital harmony.
I cannot tell you how much I appreciate the good (and humurous) advice. Here's where things stand now. I didn't call my wife, my sister in law called me. Apparently my wife thinks I must be cheating on her if my ring was off. Despite my in laws best attempts to correct the situation ( they are all on my side ) my wife still has it in her head that I am being unfaithful. Now this is where it gets interesting... my sister in law asked her point blank if she wanted out of the marriage because she was seeing someone behind my back ( as some of you mentioned ). Well there was a long silence, she broke down in tears, didn't say a word and left the house. That was 2 hrs. ago. So while I want to hope for the best it's becoming apparent that the worst case senario is upon me. I'm off to the bank to protect my assests and put them in escrow until this is sorted out. This is simply a nightmare.
In the words of that irrepressible old scallawog,
Good luck, brother.
Jesus. We are now down to two possibilities:
1. 10/10
2. A horribly interesting turn of events.
In either event, great posts, and please keep us updated.
I don't know when I'm even taking the time to respond to thsi "problem" but it's a joke. Your wife has mental issues ie trust issues, insecurity. If thsi is the least of your problems you're lucky. This is retardedly irrational and you're nuts for even questioning if it was in fact, irrational. I'm a chick and just told my bf about this and he laughed and said no comment. I hope that if I ever do that to my future husband he leaves me b/c it's pathetic
I take mine off routinely.
Food prep
Mechanical work
Computer repair
Lifting weights
Mrs. Clucker is seemingly one of the more sane women out there.
I worked as an airline mechanic for a while, it was SOP to leave the wedding ring and other jewelry in the car or to go into the tool box. There were a few horrific stories of finger/hand amputations, (intentional and unintentional) and finger de-skinning when rings, became caught in things.
You young guys who have never had the opportunity to work in a mill, manufacturing plant, etc. or with industrial type tools have no idea about the things that can and do happen.
In a lot of trouble wrote:
my sister in law asked her point blank if she wanted out of the marriage because she was seeing someone behind my back ( as some of you mentioned ). Well there was a long silence, she broke down in tears, didn't say a word and left the house. That was 2 hrs. ago. So while I want to hope for the best it's becoming apparent that the worst case senario is upon me. I'm off to the bank to protect my assests and put them in escrow until this is sorted out. This is simply a nightmare.
Bingo.
Yes put everything in your name only immediately.
Since she is and has been talking with others, I see no reason why you shouldn't do the same. That by itself, that she went to others, and not only did not come to you but is avoiding you while talking to others, is a violation of the marriage and a violation of the relationship.
She had to have had these same problems before this. You probably just weren't aware of them. Now you are.
It's time to get away from her as fast as possible and move on.
In a lot of trouble wrote:
I cannot tell you how much I appreciate the good (and humurous) advice. Here\'s where things stand now. I didn\'t call my wife, my sister in law called me. Apparently my wife thinks I must be cheating on her if my ring was off. Despite my in laws best attempts to correct the situation ( they are all on my side ) my wife still has it in her head that I am being unfaithful. Now this is where it gets interesting... my sister in law asked her point blank if she wanted out of the marriage because she was seeing someone behind my back ( as some of you mentioned ). Well there was a long silence, she broke down in tears, didn\'t say a word and left the house. That was 2 hrs. ago. So while I want to hope for the best it\'s becoming apparent that the worst case senario is upon me. I\'m off to the bank to protect my assests and put them in escrow until this is sorted out. This is simply a nightmare.
Obviously she has cheating on her mind for some reason. What\'s interesting is people are more likely to accuse you of cheating when they themselves are. That sucks man but at least you are less than a year in. Better to find out now than 10 years from now that your wife is either #1 crazy or #2 riding the mailman\'s baloney pony
I agree with Irish. Most likely she is cheating. If not she is still nuts. Get out now, before you impregnate her and it costs you half of the rest of your life.
She is crazy for sure, as your story is reasonable.
Bravo for getting to 50+ posts on a bogus story.
In a lot of trouble wrote:
Now this is where it gets interesting... my sister in law asked her point blank if she wanted out of the marriage because she was seeing someone behind my back ( as some of you mentioned ). Well there was a long silence, she broke down in tears, didn't say a word and left the house. That was 2 hrs. ago. So while I want to hope for the best it's becoming apparent that the worst case senario is upon me. I'm off to the bank to protect my assests and put them in escrow until this is sorted out. This is simply a nightmare.
Ah ha denouement
8.7/10
Sorry to hear the news. Those that are the most judgmental about something (porn, being gay, cheating) are usually closet cases themselves it seems.
Hopefully she's just being irrational.
Good luck with everything.
Just want to say that I'm a chick and I often have my wedding ring off, sometimes a few weeks at a time.
Yes, people do get actual rashes that take time to clear.
Franque Soda wrote:
My wedding ring is probably off more than on. It's never on when I sleep, run, do any work around the house or, for that matter, when my wife and I have sex. I'm simply too afraid to lose it.
That reminds me, could you do me a big favor and tell her I'd really love to get my watch back if it has re-surfaced? Thanks.
Assuming this is not one of Letsrun's all-time great trolling efforts, I'm truly sorry to hear of your plight.
I hope that things work out OK for you. Oh, and please note that I was the first one to give you the right answer back on page one (although I was a lot more subtle than a couple of people who posted after I did, as I was trying not to alarm you).