Men who take their wife's maiden name as their last name...

I'd like to see what happens when two people with hyphenated names get married. What happens when Bob Smith-Jones marries Susan Wood-Brown?

Andre wrote:

I'd like to see what happens when two people with hyphenated names get married. What happens when Bob Smith-Jones marries Susan Wood-Brown?

That's what I've thought.

man of the year wrote:

just some expat wrote:

Does that make me a pussy?

yes

It was a rhetorical question and the answer is "no." You can't write my English name on my citizen ID card (passport has both), dumbass.

A guy I worked with changed his surname to hers for religious reasons. He was agnostic/athiest/whatever and she was Jewish and wanted to raise her children in that faith. She thought it would be better for her children to have a Jewish last name since her husband didn't care what religion they were.

So he changed his name to accomodate her wishes. 10 years later the marriage ended in a bitter divorce. So I think he may have changed back to his original surname and regrets his kids are named after her.

I don't think that the name thing means much but we all need cutoms and rituals to follow. If you give up one or two you'll end up giving up a lot more than just names.

So for me the name thing was non negotiable for the kids, my wife could have done anything she wanted; maiden, hyphen, mine or made something up like Coolbreeze...

A buddy of mine met a girl he totally hit it off with. I really think he could have married this girl. I told him "Luke, you're gonna marry her someday." He told me he couldn't. I asked him why, and he responded with "I like her last name so much,I would have to take it. I would want to be Luke Beaver. I can't do that to my mother. Or my manhood."

the gooch wrote:

[quote]Tedrick P wrote:

A dad travelling without the mom is viewed in some cases with suspicion anyway, so I am not sure I wouldn't travel with a bunch of documents anyway.

WTF?

Looks like this discussion don't pertain to us.

Tedrick P wrote:

Does that ever cause problems picking up your kids at school, as an example? "Hi, I'm Mr. Smith. I'm here to pick up Bobby and Susie Jones"

Basically every couple I know are unmarried and have kids. It doesn´t seem to bother any of them.

huh? wrote:

the gooch wrote:

[quote]Tedrick P wrote:

A dad travelling without the mom is viewed in some cases with suspicion anyway, so I am not sure I wouldn't travel with a bunch of documents anyway.

WTF?

I am talking in particular about crossing the border. In cases of custody disputes often one parent will take the kids without permission - more often it is the Dad (since the Mom usually has custody).

Or maybe I just look suspicious.

jizzmo wrote:

Its probably for the best, because those kids are probably from different men any way.

If only. Then I wouldn't be stuck with entire cost of raising them, and I could blame their slow 1500m times on someone else's genes.

chris paul wrote:

A buddy of mine met a girl he totally hit it off with. I really think he could have married this girl. I told him "Luke, you're gonna marry her someday." He told me he couldn't. I asked him why, and he responded with "I like her last name so much,I would have to take it. I would want to be Luke Beaver. I can't do that to my mother. Or my manhood."

You mean him?

the gooch wrote:

Why is it silly? It is just as silly that all women take their husband's name. So why be so stuck on one over the other?

Logistically, it's inconvenient to change your name at the very least.

Of course, how would the man drive in heels and a wedding gown?

leave it to beevor wrote:

chris paul wrote:

A buddy of mine met a girl he totally hit it off with. I really think he could have married this girl. I told him "Luke, you're gonna marry her someday." He told me he couldn't. I asked him why, and he responded with "I like her last name so much,I would have to take it. I would want to be Luke Beaver. I can't do that to my mother. Or my manhood."

You mean him?

http://seminoles.cstv.com/sports/c-track/mtt/beevor_luke00.html

if only. but that is not him.

Only a true beta would take his wifes name.

[quote]alphadawg wrote:

Only a true beta would take his wifes name.[/quot

Took a lot of digging for such a lame response.

Some lunatic wrote:

[quote]alphadawg wrote:

Only a true beta would take his wifes name.[/quot

Took a lot of digging for such a lame response.

You're right. That was lame. Holy sh!t that was lame.

lemmiwinks wrote:

Society was based on wives having their husbands name and children their fathers.

Seriously? That's the basis of our society? Seriously?

Interesting.

I took my wife's last name and didn't think a thing about it. My last name was common, hers is very uncommon. She did not want to change hers, especially for mine (she has a common first name), but we both agreed on the importance of marriage and the importance of children having the same last name as the parents.

I am not "progressive." In fact, I would likely qualify as conservative or even "very" conservative. Our marriage/lifestyle is so traditional/conservative that it annoys our liberal neighbors in most respects. Not sure what the big deal is on the name thing...

Compare Iceland. In Iceland, there are no last names as we think of them; children merely take the father or mother's FIRST name, equivalent to, e.g., Mary John'sdottir or Bob Mary'sson. Are all Icelanders betas?