Anyone Notice wrote:
I'm not sure where the OP lives,but in some of the wealthier suburbs there are lots and lots of women like he describes. I see them when I return to the Connecticut town I grew up in. Maybe I should go there more often.
Mercer Island, WA is where I live
the black falcon wrote:
they're just freshly divorced from the "my retirement account went over 100K today!"thread-type guys and getting back into shape to find younger, studlier, in-shape men who don't sit around drinking beer & waxing poetic about market growth and 401Ks.
I call them Flagmires.
JoeyJoeJoeJrShabadoo wrote:
Not my reel name wrote:You should see the moms at my kid's school. Fiiiiiiiiine!! I keep thinking their husbands know what I'm thinking when we all speak.
Haha, no doubt. Of course they know. When a guy has a hot girlfriend/wife, whenever they meet other guys together, he knows those guys are thinking about how the want to stick it to her.
Regarding the fine 30's girls at the gym. If they're there during the day, you can be sure that they have a chump at the office grinding 12 hr days just for them. If you are seeing these girls at night, then find a way to strike up a conversation, and you'll know soon enough if they have a SO. I've met chicks at the gym, and it's a delicate procedure because many of them don't want to be bothered. One trick that always worked for me was to catch them in the stretching area and comment on how you wish you were that flexible. Then ask them for a tip or two. Another approach is to comment on their cool running shoes and ask where they got them, how they like them, etc. If you don't act like a creep, then they won't treat you like one.
They don't want to be bothered because they are there to work out, not be harassed.
don't bother wrote:
JoeyJoeJoeJrShabadoo wrote:Haha, no doubt. Of course they know. When a guy has a hot girlfriend/wife, whenever they meet other guys together, he knows those guys are thinking about how the want to stick it to her.
Regarding the fine 30's girls at the gym. If they're there during the day, you can be sure that they have a chump at the office grinding 12 hr days just for them. If you are seeing these girls at night, then find a way to strike up a conversation, and you'll know soon enough if they have a SO. I've met chicks at the gym, and it's a delicate procedure because many of them don't want to be bothered. One trick that always worked for me was to catch them in the stretching area and comment on how you wish you were that flexible. Then ask them for a tip or two. Another approach is to comment on their cool running shoes and ask where they got them, how they like them, etc. If you don't act like a creep, then they won't treat you like one.
They don't want to be bothered because they are there to work out, not be harassed.
As am I. I generally like to be left alone while I'm working out. However, I never turn down the opportunity to make a new friend, guy or girl. You should try it sometime.
Join that class you dummmy! Women LOVE it when a man is MAN enough to take a fitness class....means that they are secure in their masculinity and can handle perhaps looking bad or being bested by a woman in the gym. As someone who teaches group training....anytime a guy, and especially a cute young guy comes to class and is just himself....the ladies love it! You can get to know those women in a non threatening way and who knows what will happen? Often, if they are not married, they will go out after class....so you could join them.
Duh......
JoeyJoeJoeJrShabadoo wrote:
Another approach is to comment on their cool running shoes and ask where they got them, how they like them, etc.
+1. This worked for me with a random hottie jogger last time I was in Chicago on business.
I'm a single woman in my 30's, a runner who uses the gym a lot when I get injured, and I think it's hilarious that you guys are assuming we're all divorced. A lot of us have never been married and don't want to; we have $$, freedom, and a fit body we don't want to ruin by having kids.
But if we're going to date someone, it would typically be someone older who is mature and understands women (which no male in his 20's does).
Meeting a date at the gym is so cheesy, but I have to admit, I would actually be really flattered if someone asked me about my running shoes (other women do all the time, as well as the guys in my training group who are friends) because I spend a fortune on them and match them with my training outfits. So that was actually a really good piece of advice.
Peace Out wrote:
I would actually be really flattered if someone asked me about my running shoes because I spend a fortune on them and match them with my training outfits.
According to LRC message board standards, this makes you not a real runner because real runners don't match their clothes with their shoes.
I would have though the gym is one of the key reasons why there are hot 30 something women.
Hang out at a McDonalds for a few hours to see all the obese, ugly 30 something women. But whatever you do don't upload or link to the pictures......
Peace Out wrote:
But if we're going to date someone, it would typically be someone older who is mature and understands women (which no male in his 20's does).
Right...so my friend that finished HS a year early and finished his college degree at a prestigious school while working several jobs and is the youngest person in our med school class is immature?
He's also 6'2", cut, arguably the most knowledgeable person in our program, and a great guy but since he is in his 20's, I guess he's not worth the time of day of 30 something woman.
You have to be careful with this. A man approached me once and said, "I love your running shoes. Are they Size 9?" I thought this was odd and creepy. A man showing too much interest in women's shoes can set off the alarms...
I did one of those fitness classes once. Had eaten earlier at the Indian buffet -- all you can eat. After I got sweating, I could tell I reeked of curry. About 20 minutes in I accidentally cut a fart during some sort of squat thrust move -- the fart literally scattered women out of the room. I never went back.
JoeyJoeJoeJrShabadoo wrote:
don't bother wrote:They don't want to be bothered because they are there to work out, not be harassed.
As am I. I generally like to be left alone while I'm working out. However, I never turn down the opportunity to make a new friend, guy or girl. You should try it sometime.
First, of all, I have plenty of friends and family. However, at the gym, I am there to work out as quickly as possible so I can get on with my day. The guys in this thread aren't talking about making a new "friend", they are talking about hoping to hook up with a hottie. Guys on this site just come across as so clueless. If a woman is working out in the middle of the day, she is a trophy wife and doesn't work? I work out in the middle of the day because I work 2 twelve hour shifts on the weekend as a nurse. Many women try to arrange their work schedules so their children spend minimal/no time in daycare.
picturing this situation is hilarious. well done.
don't bother wrote:
JoeyJoeJoeJrShabadoo wrote:As am I. I generally like to be left alone while I'm working out. However, I never turn down the opportunity to make a new friend, guy or girl. You should try it sometime.
First, of all, I have plenty of friends and family. However, at the gym, I am there to work out as quickly as possible so I can get on with my day. The guys in this thread aren't talking about making a new "friend", they are talking about hoping to hook up with a hottie. Guys on this site just come across as so clueless. If a woman is working out in the middle of the day, she is a trophy wife and doesn't work? I work out in the middle of the day because I work 2 twelve hour shifts on the weekend as a nurse. Many women try to arrange their work schedules so their children spend minimal/no time in daycare.
Thanks for the tip; I had completely neglected the nursing field in my hypothesis. Now instead of assuming they are taken, I'll just hit on all of them. Not you though......you sound like put off a vibe of negativity that is visible for miles.
Hating on 20 year olds? wrote:
Peace Out wrote:But if we're going to date someone, it would typically be someone older who is mature and understands women (which no male in his 20's does).
Right...so my friend that finished HS a year early and finished his college degree at a prestigious school while working several jobs and is the youngest person in our med school class is immature?
He's also 6'2", cut, arguably the most knowledgeable person in our program, and a great guy but since he is in his 20's, I guess he's not worth the time of day of 30 something woman.
I know a number of smart, successful dudes who don't know the first thing about women.
Hating on 20 year olds? wrote:
Peace Out wrote:But if we're going to date someone, it would typically be someone older who is mature and understands women (which no male in his 20's does).
Right...so my friend that finished HS a year early and finished his college degree at a prestigious school while working several jobs and is the youngest person in our med school class is immature?
He's also 6'2", cut, arguably the most knowledgeable person in our program, and a great guy but since he is in his 20's, I guess he's not worth the time of day of 30 something woman.
Grasshopper, she didn't say a male in his 20s couldn't look good physically, be smart and be a "great guy". Huge difference in having those characteristics and understanding women in their 30s and older.
Get back to us in 10 years and tell us how little you and your 20-something buddies really knew about women. I know you don't like it, but 99.9% of guys in their 20s do not have enough emotional, spiritual, intellectual and sexual experience to understand what truly makes women tick, particularly 30-something women and up. I sure didn't.
Granted, none of us men at any age will likely ever figure out women completely (I'm still working on it!). But there is no substitute for simply living life, going through struggles, raising kids, having your heart broken, breaking another's heart, experiencing success and failure - and the wisdom and emotional maturity that comes with all of that.
I don't mean to condescend. We were all young once. And I'm not saying I or any older guys have it all figured out. But you'll get what I'm saying a few years down the road.
Peace Out wrote:
I'm a single woman in my 30's, a runner who uses the gym a lot when I get injured, and I think it's hilarious that you guys are assuming we're all divorced. A lot of us have never been married and don't want to; we have $$, freedom, and a fit body we don't want to ruin by having kids.
But if we're going to date someone, it would typically be someone older who is mature and understands women (which no male in his 20's does).
Meeting a date at the gym is so cheesy, but I have to admit, I would actually be really flattered if someone asked me about my running shoes (other women do all the time, as well as the guys in my training group who are friends) because I spend a fortune on them and match them with my training outfits. So that was actually a really good piece of advice.
First, my apologies for my post saying the 30-something hotties like yourself at the gym are likely divorced. An unfair assumption on my part. My observation was based largely on personal experience, but you have set me straight!
One disagreement I have is your assumption that having kids will "ruin" your fit body. This does not necessarily have to be so. I guarantee if you saw pics of my 42-year old GF, who gave birth to and raised her 17-year old son, you would swear she is 32 and had never had kids. She is a size 4, 5-7, 118, 34C-22-34, about 17-18% body fat, and puts plenty of 20-somethings to shame. No plastic surgery, no boob job, nothing. Just eating right, taking care of her skin, staying fit. (She's a medical aesthetician, so she's an expert on skin care and it shows).
Not saying you have to get married and/or have kids. I'm sure you have a great, rewarding life. Just wanted to give you another perspective.
Willis Bruce wrote:
Bruce Willis angrily returns a cheese grater to the store, "IT DID NOT MAKE THE CHEESE GREATER! IT JUST MADE LOTS OF LITTLE CHEESE" he fumes.
Nice one!
Sadistic surgeon of demise wrote:
I walked by some class that was going on in the basketball court at my gym today, and there was like 20 hot women, all wearing tight clothing and prancing around to different stations in some circuit training they had going on. Where can I meet women like this other than the gym? I'm 20 yrs old, btw.
So, what is wrong with meeting women IN the gym? You could just join the class. A bit of circuit training never hurt anyone.