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playsfortheotherteam wrote:

I respect that you say you are not a homophobe. However, you used it as a screen name, and other gays have apparently called you this before. In your own words you think I am choosing to be gay so in fact you are proving to be an ignoramus as far as homosexuality is concerned. For one, I remember being sexually attracted to men around the age of 5. I was not molested, I wasn't ignored by my father, my mother wasn't at all overbearing. I just knew at that time I loved looking at men's bodies at the beach or when playing sports. Did I choose this for myself at this age? Absoluetly not. Nothing changed as I got older. Most kids my age talked about Playboy growing up. I saw them as a teen. Never got aroused at all...not even once. How could I choose not to be aroused? I had girlfriends in highschool and college. I never got aroused from making out but admittedly with the only girl I was ever with, I was aroused when she touched my genitals. The first time I kissed a guy, about age 20, instant arousal. I dated women after that hoping I could fall in love...never did...never got emotionally attached to them in any way. The last girlfriend I had used to put my hands on her breasts when we were making out. No arousal. I knew at that point I was done. In my twenties I read volumes about why I might be this way. People had their theories...overbearing mother, distant father, molestation..none of them applied to me. I had guilt for a long time, until my early thirties. When I met my partner it went away. I realized I wasn't alone and when I fell in love with him, it felt right and I knew I was doing what was right for me. I could probably go my life without having sex with a man ever again. But I would still be gay and I would be miserable without the companionship of my partner. Noone can choose who they love. Sex, whether it be heterosexual or homosexual, can be an expression of love. It can be an expression of lust, too, I get that, but when you have someone you want to marry, sex is an expression of love. Marriage is also an expression of love, and that is why it is not fair to deny people these rights, whether you agree with the behavior or understand it or not. People should look at how things would be if the shoe were on the other foot. For you straights who oppose this, consider that you were the minority and were not allowed to marry the person you love. That people ridiculed you for how you were born because you were different. Imagine not being able to introduce your family to the person you loved because they were prejudiced against straight people. Ah, but lucky for you though.

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