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Subject: RE: Is it wrong to not support gay marriage?
Body: Ask yourself this question, if you are married, or if you intend to get married, will it be because you want to honor tradition or because you want to give your lady the highest commitment there is to show her how much you love her? For MOST people, it is the latter. Same is true for gay people brother. They feel for themselves the way that heterosexual people do for themselves.
Also ask yourself this question...WHY are you so into protecting this institution? 50% of marriages end in divorce (skewed by yahoos who get divorced multiple times). Some institution. I'm actually VERY for marriage, and I've been married almost 23 years now and will be until one of us dies, but I do see the silliness in someone wanting to pull out the "institution" card when being against gays marrying.
Know that MOST people who are against gays marrying are so because they view it as a sin that greatly bothers them. They feel that this "validates" their lifestyle. Gay people are here. Gay people have ALWAYS been here. Allowing gay marriage isn't going to turn anyone gay.
Two consenting adults want to commit to each other in a way that is recognized by the state in a way that ALL other adults are allowed to. Seems fair to me.
I do not think two men or two women should get married. I really only see people mocking this opinion, and acting like it is entirely invalid.
My friends joke about how ignorant it is to not support gay marriage, and I just have to play along because I don't want a heated "debate" about who is right or wrong.
It just doesn't seem right to me. I can think about it all I want, approach it from every rational viewpoint, and I can understand the other side of this argument, but when it boils down, there is nothing substantial to go with other than what I feel. Why exactly do two people of the same sex need to engage in an activity that has very little meaning beyond its tradition, a tradition which they are not a part of? The majority of states now recognize civil unions between same sex partners the same way they recognize marriages for the purposes of things like taxes and insurance, isn't that enough?
I don't get why everyone should have access to everything. Sexual orientation is not a big deal to me, but protecting an institution much older than almost any that are still so popular is important to me. If I could I would make the divorce laws in this country much more stringent as well, as I do appreciate the fact that a high divorce rate is just as corrosive to the foundation of the significance of marriage as it would be to allow a broader spectrum of relationships to qualify.
Marriage, to me, is the product of a deep love between a man and a woman. Why does it seem that so many intellectual people in this country attack that view with such venom? I can recognize the reason same sex couples would like to be married, and simply say that the tradition of marriage weighs more heavily than their desire to partake in it.
I hate that this viewpoint is so unwelcome in discussion in many forums (especially around where I live in the Northeast), it makes me very curious as to why the result of my thought process is so radically different than the majority of people around me. I just would like to understand why so many people shake out on the extremely pro-gay marriage side of this argument, while most anti-gay marriage supporters tend to be more reserved about their beliefs (despite, if I am not mistaken, holding at least an equal, if not slight majority within this country)
It does not seem like a meaningless distinction to me, marriage is largely a traditional ceremony, and much less a legal one, so why is the tradition deemed so irrelevant by so many?
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