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Poster: pleased husband
Subject: RE: Post-nuptial shutoff?
Our marriages aren't perfect. I'm reading this thread because it does make for some interesting reading, and it may keep me from falling into some of the same traps into which others have fallen.
As to the woman who thinks that her husband would be happy with any hole and just gets his rocks off: Have you told him how you feel?
One of the turning moments in my marriage came when my wife sat me down and told her that I didn't please her during sex. Talk about a slap in the face. Hey, I was getting off all the time, but it didn't occur to me that she wasn't.
I swallowed my pride and listened to her. I then started trying to make sure that she was pleased. There are times that she's not interested, and she tell me to just use her for a quickie. Notice that she doesn't turn me down; she just doesn't want to have a long lovemaking session. Overall, after I started trying harder to please her, the quantity and quality went up.
Those of you who have been shut off for some time are going to have to work slowly and consistently to get her back in the sack. Before ditching her or whatever, ask yourself if you would still want to be with her if you couldn't have sex. Is the relationship as a whole pretty good?
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