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Poster: Still Married and Happy
Subject: RE: Post-nuptial shutoff?
You are missing the point, Rapture. No one should get married to uphold a social structure. People should get married because they believe love is real (as people like Jean Jacques Rousseau and Jane Austen did, among others), that real love is a source of happiness on this earth, and that they have found someone they love and who they believe does and will love them back. That is the only reason to get married.
There are two types of bachelors. The type I described in the above post (the stud who morphs through his own choices and shallowness into a pathetic sort of figure), and the bachelor who genuinely believes and yearns for love, but for some reason has been unlucky in finding it. The former person is an object of disdain, the latter an object of sympathy.
If someone professes to not believe in true love, by all means they shouldn't marry. They can play the field into their 60s or whatever, but I suspect they are never quite as happy as they profess themselves to be. There have been some recent studies that show life-long married folks to be happier in general.
You seem to be confusing the right to play the field with my point that such a choice is certainly open and available to anyone in a free society, but it has real consequences. People have and always will make value judgments. They could no longer excuse themselves from the moral realm of making value judgments as they could excuse themselves from breathing oxygen. Man is the great esteemer (Plato).
We are and always will be defined by the choices we make. Choose carefully.
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