PooPooGarbo wrote:
I have a gf that I have dated for 2 years and things have gone well. However, I am a semi-pro runner who has aspirations to be able to go pro one day and support myself through running. Throughout the 2 years of us dating everything has been great, lots of fun dates, laughter, and sex. However, over the last 6 months, I have ramped up my training and have become obsessed with running. She has distanced herself emotionally from me and cut off sex. When I ask her why she says I care about running more than her. And has given me an ultimatum, either choose running or choose her. She is giving me 1 week to decide.
I know this is kinda vague info, but does anyone have any advice or experience with this type of situation?
You have one and only one chance to go for this -- your running. You may very well be able to knock off a few minutes and get into the 2:12-2:13 range. Who knows what can happen at trials. If you don't go for it know you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
As for your gf, she may very well not understand as well as she thinks she does since she may not have excelled at anything compared to where you are with running. It's not like you're on the couch being lazy or skulking around behind her back, she knows that you're RUNNING high volume. Her insecurities are surfacing and needs for attention are not being met and her response is to cut off sex -- very selfish. You'll never win with her because she'll always be able to play this card to manipulate intimacy, which ultimately cheapens the entire relationship.
Break up, chase your dreams, and go for it. You'll probably be faster because you will have less stress and run freer. When you meet the next lady you'll be able to tell her that you had the stones to ante up and give it a shot.