Biked by my boyfriend walking with his research group to their group party, should I have stopped to say hi?

If they don't know he is gay, probably better you kept it on the DL. Good job, dude.

theJeff wrote:

If they don't know he is gay, probably better you kept it on the DL. Good job, dude.

Most gay orgies in grad school are held in the woods. At least mine were in the 70s.

Well they (the research group) do know about me, he's mentioned it before that it's come up at previous afternoon happy hours that they do every once in a while. They just wouldn't be aware that that was specifically me going by.

theJeff wrote:

If they don't know he is gay, probably better you kept it on the DL. Good job, dude.

I forgive you. Why is it better though?

When you are stalking it's better to just roll on by. It will come down to whether he recognized your spandex clad grundle.

I think the only way to properly answer this question is to see pics of you....

Allah however doesn't approve.

Stop if going slower than 24 mph.

Don't stop if going faster than 24 mph.

I wasn't stalking. I knew his holiday party was at 2, and I was biking to some hills, which happened to go through that area, around 4 PM. I didn't realize that they'd be walking as a group at that point.

Jesus approves the relationship wrote:

theJeff wrote:

If they don't know he is gay, probably better you kept it on the DL. Good job, dude.

I forgive you. Why is it better though?

You aren't doing that right.

"Better" in this case means "considerate".

Of course, the joke's on me. I was trying to pretend that the OP, obviously a female, was a gay male... when in fact it IS apparently a gay male. Que sera sera.

theJeff wrote:

I was trying to pretend that the OP, obviously a female, was a gay male....

Much like your relations with the wife, amirite?

hmmmmm?? wrote:

I wasn't stalking. I knew his holiday party was at 2, and I was biking to some hills, which happened to go through that area, around 4 PM. I didn't realize that they'd be walking as a group at that point.

Sure, you just 'happened" by.

I would just yelled out "I'll call you later" and waved, if possible. Then he probably would have said to his team something like "That was my girlfriend". It might have given him status. I know that something like that happened to me once and I got status from the other guys. It is strange though; it's not like that helped them any in securing dates.

Riding by and pretending you had no idea it was them would be weird.

But you rode by truly not knowing it was them. Once you realized, I assume you did some sort of wave or "hey -insert name-" as you passed. I think that would be perfectly fine.

They were hanging out as a work group with no significant others, you were under no obligation to inject yourself into that mid bike ride by turning around and riding back to them. You can hang out and meet them another time.

jesus still loves you wrote:

theJeff wrote:

I was trying to pretend that the OP, obviously a female, was a gay male....

Much like your relations with the wife, amirite?

zing.

I get so jealous when I think of him topping someone besides me.

I should have done that.. instead I did an "oh" and then sped off, because I was clipped in and almost lost my balance trying to get around the whole group/not get off my bike.

theJeff wrote:

jesus still loves you wrote:

Much like your relations with the wife, amirite?

zing.

What does it mean if you get arousal at the thought of a woman pegging you?

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