How would you have handled this situation? Was my anger justified?

I disagree with a few posters. I think you unnecessarily escalated the situation.

From the beginning of your writing, it's clear she is frantic and a bit nuts.

A better way to handle it would have been "I don't know, sorry" and moved on. Yet you continued to engage with her. To me, it seems you didn't help the situation here.

That being said, I wasn't there, so this is just my opinion off what you wrote.

Banana Bread wrote:

I would have treated her with respect. Guys should respect a women. I would have used the opportunity to potentially meet my soulmate. I would have offered to get in the car and bring her where she is going. It doesn't cost anything to be nice. I would have invited her for coffee afterwards and I'm sure she would have agreed since I was helpful to her. I would have told her that she has a really nice car and that it suits her and that she reminds you of the queen in her royal carriage and her car is lucky to have such a great driver.

You missed your opportunity.

I would have offered her a banana.

OP ran into a nutter in his neighborhood. But I WORK with these folks day in and day out. Well, I better get back to it. Someone wants to know how to move their mouse over a page online....

Maybe the woman thought you were cute, and was trying to get to know you.

A woman was acting like that to me one time, and I didn't realize till much later she was trying to pick me up.

However I was totally annoyed, and obviously wanted nothing to do with her, so she left.

What are you playing at boy? You got you rights don't ya? I don't know... gettin' all worked up, loosin' youasa sleep over some low grade cussin'? Where you at boy?

Now, what you shoulda done see is yellard "Martha!" (or whatever youasa good lady may be called), "Martha grab me my rifle." and then said to this despicable upstart, "now you listen here lady and you listen good. You got exactly one minute to get far, far away from ma property or I is gonna blow you head clean off!"

You gotta you rights boy, now you don't be afraid none to use 'em.

After trying to help her initially, I would have stuck earbuds in my ears and ignored her or gone inside.

I was at home, in a house I'd owned (lived in, whatever) for 6 years, when a car roared up, and what looked like most of a family got out.

They were looking for some woman, presumably family, and it appeared to be an "intervention" sort of thing. There was NO doubt with them that this woman was at my house, which was a den of heroin use, so-and-so died here, did I know about blah-blah and what he did to her here, etc.

I knew who owned the house before me, they'd had it for 15 years, there were no secret rooms or tunnels (far as I knew), and my dogs would bark if someone they didn't know was in the house. Very weird. Took about 20 minutes to talk them down.

I would've smashed her head in with a shovel after "Well, who are you supposed to be?"

But that sort of decision making paradigm is way less complex for me, because I don't think other people are real.

You should've cussed her out a little more, though.

you’re neighbor is wrong. You can talk to women the same way you’d talk to a man. That’s what women’s liberation was about right? Equality for all and no special treatment for anyone.

That being said you don’t need to cuss at anyone. Do what I do with angry aggressive people and pretend you’re autistic. People feel stupid when they’re mean to people with special needs.

You Yanks get all bothered by teeny things. I would have just left her be on her way and gone inside to give the wife a good rogering.

gaslighting wrote:

I was pretty shocked by that response, but I kept cool and said "Well I don't know my neighbors house numbers off the top of my head but it should be one of the houses on either side of mine". Then she said "Well, who are you supposed to be?" I didn't know what to say to that so I just responded with "What?" Then she yelled "I'M LOOKING FOR SOMEONE! IS THIS APSEN LANE?!"

After this line I would have pulled down my pants and taken a piss right in front of her.

Wtf? This is AMERICA! wrote:

What are you playing at boy? You got you rights don't ya? I don't know... gettin' all worked up, loosin' youasa sleep over some low grade cussin'? Where you at boy?

Now, what you shoulda done see is yellard "Martha!" (or whatever youasa good lady may be called), "Martha grab me my rifle." and then said to this despicable upstart, "now you listen here lady and you listen good. You got exactly one minute to get far, far away from ma property or I is gonna blow you head clean off!"

You gotta you rights boy, now you don't be afraid none to use 'em.

You're trying too hard, my dear chap.

Is this 206 aspen lane?

No, it’s a few houses down that way ————— >

Problem solved.

I would have escalated things quickly by acting even more insane. Instead of cussing, I would have assumed the zombie pose and slowly lumbered over to her while drooling and babbling nonsense.

Mo Farah has shown a really impressive range. With his recent 2:05:11 in Chicago, he now ranks 78th on the all-time list and he has a faster 800 and 1500 PR than any of the 45 athletes with faster marathon performances. It's a shame that he didn't focus more on bringing down his 5000 and 10,000 times when he was optimally trained for those distances, otherwise he would be squarely in the middle of the debate for GOAT. C'est la vie.

I would have said “f**k off” before she finished rolling down the window.

British Dude wrote:

lol

You Yanks get all bothered by teeny things. I would have just left her be on her way and gone inside to give the wife a good rogering.

This lady showed up at our house on Aspen Lane looking to buy a couch. I told her that we're not actually selling any furniture, but that while she was in the neighborhood that she should go pester you since you were outside doing yard work. You know just as a joke...teeheehee :) to make up for the time your dog crapped on our sidewalk and my mother-in-law stepped in it and then walked cross our new rug.

So she said sure, pulled in front of your house, started questioning you and got you all fired up! So it worked, then she came back and told me about it and I could see that you weren't too happy. But I figured what the heck, this is all good stuff and we're even now. So I gave her the coach for free since she had to put up with you losing your cool and being beligerante towards her.

The next time someone comes looking for 206 Aspen Lane you better use nice manners or else we'll call the Code Enforcement folks to make a visit to the chicken house in your backyard.

You picking up what I'm putting down young whippersnapper????

That's a Big 10-4 Home Slice!