Are unmarried coaches in their 40s weird?

There is a 49 year old in our running community who does nothing but run. Well, he works, but he had no other interests, no children and is a total jerk.

At a race last summer, he didn't too well and was passed the last 200 meters by a female Kenyan. At the awards banquet, he was pounding the table in frustration, saying how he was going to "train his brains out and pound her in the ground next year."

If he only saw the people laughing at him. What a joke.

Why you have this wonderful stable job and relationship? Go f yourself

He’s a Volunteer Assistant wrote:

There is a 49 year old in our running community who does nothing but run. Well, he works, but he had no other interests, no children and is a total jerk.

At a race last summer, he didn't too well and was passed the last 200 meters by a female Kenyan. At the awards banquet, he was pounding the table in frustration, saying how he was going to "train his brains out and pound her in the ground next year."

If he only saw the people laughing at him. What a joke.

That guy sums it up.

Pedro Pan wrote:

By the time you reach 40 you should have a somewhat stable life. Coaches who are single, never married, over 40 something must have something wrong with them right? Personality problems, unable to grow up, drinking/drug addiction? Since they coach they must be trying to hang on to their youth.

Not including divorced although that may indicate other issues.

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Please tell us, why being married with kids is somewhat exciting? What is wrong with "trying" to hang on to your youth? The is more than one way to live the American Dream. There is no one best way to do life.

I know someone who was unmarried and middle aged and a very good coach of a girls xc team. He is now married and has a young family but is no longer coaching.

I think it helps to be married and have kids in getting a better understanding of what your athletes are going through from a different perspective. But it's not necessary.

The people I know who never married and are still socially normal, had something very neurotic about them in their personal life. Like obsessing about organizing their house a certain way, or some other thing that had to do with their personal space. This neuroticism didn't affect their ability to relate to people in the community or be a good mentor to younger people. It just prevented them from wanting to have someone move into their house and mess things up.

Of course, there are some people who never get married because they do have some sort of screw loose, and it affects all of their relationships. But there are also perfectly healthy people who never marry for a reason that is limited to an area that doesn't affect their social capabilities in other ways.

According to who? Someone fond of lame judgments who has nothing better to do than complain online to strangers? Lots of single older coaches out there that still offer a lot to the running community and are "normal" whatever that means. Many don't believe in marriage, especially if no kids are in the picture. What's the point?

Making huge assumptions about a lifestyle choice and saying it's because of personality and addiction probs is stupid, really dumb. Oh, I coach people, therefore I'm trying to hang on to my youth and have addictions? Nope. Doesn't add up. Try again.

How much do high school coaches actually earn? What are their hours like?

How much do assistant coaches at uni earn?

"Pedro Pan" is a chick who hates herself. She doesn't have the life she wants because she doesn't have the man she wants, and she knows she's too ugly to compete. When she was a little younger, she didn't worry so much because, though a "plain Jane," she still had runner fitness and the glow of youth. Now that she's pushing 40 herself, has gone soft, and has more than a few crow's feet and other battle scars, she's hyper-focused on unmarried guys her age or a little older because these are the guys who are rejecting her now for younger, hotter, and more personable women.

Bet on it.

That isn't Pure Hate.

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That is a Pure Roast.

(I'll be like Pedro Pan in a few years).

Every college coach knows that when they sign up to be a college coach, they are signing up to remain single. It's part of the job. And most of us aren't making nearly 50k/year. Now, high school or professional coaches? I can't speak for.