This is the only place I can post this anonymously. I haven't even shared this with my wife. This is a 100% serious post, so while I know trolls will post awful things, I really would like some honest feedback.
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I treat my two kids completely unequally. I don't mean I treat them "differently" because they are two different kids; I meant that I feel like I actually like them unequally. The more I try to treat them the same, the worse of a job I feel like I do. The truth is, one of them irritates the crap out of me, and the other one I just love to death. The weird thing is, the irritating one is the one who is the "perfect kid": does homework, chores, etc. without being asked. The one I just want to smother with affection is much more likely to try to sneak out of responsibilities. (There may be some "chicken-or-the-egg there, who knows?)
I can just hear myself being so short and snippy with one, and so patient and kind with the other one. Of course, I love them both with all my heart and would do almost anything for either of them... but I just feel awful about how differently I treat them... and worse, how I feel about them.