Is INTELLIGENCE of a spouse important?

Intelligence and personality are more important than physical attractiveness. Looks fade, but personality and intelligence will last much longer. As long as she's good looking enough that you're able to sleep with her, then that's all that matters in the looks department.

Also worth adding, intelligence is genetic from the mother. If you want smart kids (and therefore more likely to be successful) then you should try to get a smart wife.

robert678 wrote:

Intelligence and personality are more important than physical attractiveness. Looks fade, but personality and intelligence will last much longer. As long as she's good looking enough that you're able to sleep with her, then that's all that matters in the looks department.

She has to be better looking than " Good enough for a quickie on

a snowy day in Sheboygan".

robert678 wrote:

Also worth adding, intelligence is genetic from the mother. If you want smart kids (and therefore more likely to be successful) then you should try to get a smart wife.

Your first sentence is very questionable, at least according to the following article:

I'm a mechanic.

The other day a very attractive, very fit, large breasted blonde came to my shop. She wanted to top off her coolant because her car was running hot. She pulls the car around to my bay. Its a BMW suv. I find the radiator leaking badly; this car isn't safe to drive through the 105 degree heat to her home in Phoenix. While the hood is popped I notice there is very little oil on the dipstick and its black. Transmission fluid is black. The front tires have steel belts coming through. This very expensive vehicle has been neglected into worthlessness.

She spent a long time on the phone with the husband trying to decide if she should just try to drive home. The husband got me on the line and tried to tough talk me down on the pricing of replacing the radiator. When I wouldn't budge, he told her to drive home.

I know for certain she wouldn't have made it ten miles closer to home, of a 100 mile drive. Their ignorance surely cost them the vehicle, plus a tow bill home, plus whatever costs to repair this vehicle or get a knew one. She'll be lucky if she didn't suffer dehydration or heat stroke while waiting in the mid day sun for the tow truck.

But she's got big tits.

Sorry dude, its just not worth it. In ten years she'll be on the decline just like everyone else, but she'll have cost that husband an awful lot over the years. Now if she were also intelligent, sure dude get what you can get, but the dummies just aren't worth it. Not when you're already smart enough to know you're dealing with a dummy.

I’m sorry, did you just tell the OP he needs an intelligent woman that knows how to work on cars? Good luck with that.

OP: Here’s what you need: 1) A woman who likes giving BJs. She doesn’t even have to be good at it. I mean, who’s going to complain about a bad bl@w j@b? 2) A woman who looks good in a bikini. 3) A woman who looks good out of a bikini.

Leg Man wrote:

I’m sorry, did you just tell the OP he needs an intelligent woman that knows how to work on cars? Good luck with that.

Work on cars? No I never advised that, but I don't see why people shouldn't feel encouraged to know how.

When I see vehicle neglect I see significant red flags. Its one thing when folks can't afford oxygen sensors on the 200k mile car. Its entirely another thing when someone spends more than an annual salary on an automobile and treats it with complete disrespect. At first its just a sign of sloppiness, laziness, and ignorance. The longer that neglect goes on, it becomes a significant safety issue. That won is not only putting herself but everyone around her in a critical safety threat. And if you've ever driven through Phoenix, you know she's driving that rolling death trap at 90 mph three feet off someone's bumper in four lane traffic.

If you don't know to have your vehicle maintained at regular and consistent intervals, you're not an adult and therefor not spouse material, as it relates to the OP's question.

Be smart.

Don't marry for love.

Don't marry for looks.

Don't marry for brains.

Marry for money. If you make her happy then her dad will take care of you.

Jax Teller wrote:

Be smart.

Don't marry for love.

Don't marry for looks.

Don't marry for brains.

Marry for money. If you make her happy then her dad will take care of you.

Money is only attracted to money. They'll see you coming a mile away gold-digger.

I have one kid from a stupid female and two from a smart woman, the first guy is just fantastic in all areas, not sooo academic, but very joyful to be with, he struggled a bit to get his master, but succeeded at last, the other two get top grades every time, also great kids.

My tip: Go with the chemistry of love.

galenruppisgod wrote:

Should I compromise on PHYSICAL attractiveness of a female for higher IQ when looking for a significant other to have children with?

I think yes, but it makes me sad.

Take your time. There are very attractive smart women. In these cases, too, it’s actually probably speaking to even greater compatibility because they probably had parents that taught them to value education over looks.

Sometimes though, having it all can make a woman crazy.

robert678 wrote:

Also worth adding, intelligence is genetic from the mother. If you want smart kids (and therefore more likely to be successful) then you should try to get a smart wife.

It's also worth adding that this is bullshit and I challenge you to find a reputable source that shows this.

dbags wrote:

robert678 wrote:

Also worth adding, intelligence is genetic from the mother. If you want smart kids (and therefore more likely to be successful) then you should try to get a smart wife.

It's also worth adding that this is bullshit and I challenge you to find a reputable source that shows this.

Find a happy medium. Looks and sexual attraction fade fast after 40, really smart broads get sharp tongued as they age and question and belittle everything you do. You don't want to wake up to a shriveled old shrew every day or a former beauty who can't get over not being the center of attention any more.

robert678 wrote:

Also worth adding, intelligence is genetic from the mother. If you want smart kids (and therefore more likely to be successful) then you should try to get a smart wife.

Incorrect, especially by applying an absolute to a statement of genetic hereditary. It is a combination of both mother and father, as well as dominant and recessive genes. Additionally, the likelihood exists that the intelligence of the child will surpass both their mother and father. Tangentially, character is preeminent as we are all the same upon death despite athletic ability, intelligence, and/or wealth. I won't even cover the most important factor (why the divorce rate is so high), as some won't believe its existence or efficacy.

Everyone's definition of success varies and is not necessarily monetary like most presume.

Yes.

Speaking of intelligence, "heredity" not hereditary for the grammar police. Step one, actually understand what a strong marriage should be: yes, sapiosexualism fills the top spot for strongest marriages, because looks fade. Much is up to what you value like what I noted as the most important trait, character: the only thing you have that no one can take away if you were to lose everything.

No one has said: 1) lean & fit, 2) femur to height ratio, 3) narrow hips, 4) a woman with a sub-65 400m PB. Don't letsrun runners want fast kids?

Makes sense on the surface for the typical Letsrun crowd. Running is your identity and what you do, rather than who you are. Your career does comprise 64.28% of your life, but is still just one part of your being. I would rather someone be regarded as an amazing person that just so happens to run. Again, personal opinion, but this conversation begs the question, "what is your legacy?" In other words, a relationship is reciprocal and requires sacrifice and compromise by both partners. I rightly or wrongly feel that people overvalue themselves, rather than objectively and introspectively assessing their value before finding a partner with complementary traits. A bit philosophical and much deeper than selecting a partner based on superficial times and genotype/phenotype characteristics. By the way, Sigmund Freud has some outlandish theories, but he is right about marriage. That should help you on your selection process. I may step off my soapbox now!