clueless kid wrote:
It seems like life sucks and then you die.
Close. Life is what you make of it and then you die.
clueless kid wrote:
It seems like life sucks and then you die.
Close. Life is what you make of it and then you die.
Responsibility
Easy:
You're born
You grow up
You go on some diets
You die
clueless kid wrote:
I’m struggling a little bit in life right now. I had everything going for me my junior year. I ran amazing, had a great girlfriend, and great grades. Its a long story but I screwed everything up and I haven’t run a race since junior year. I dumped my girlfriend and she has moved on.
I have been on the team just not racing at all for various reasons.
Luckily, a college still wants me to run for them (collegiate running us the only thing I’m living for at the moment). I was excited at first, but now I’m realizing that I hate the school (not the team). It’s not a good academic fit for me. I’m graduating in 2 weeks and I don’t know what to do.
Life doesn’t seem to be worth living. I want to move across the country for school but I have no support. I don’t know what to do and I’m not passionate about anything anymore. Please help. It seems like life sucks and then you die. Is there more to it? I know I’m young but I just don’t get it. Does life get better?
Struggle? Maybe, but you still have a bright future ahead of you. You're just having a cloudy day right now.
1) The running can come back with the right training as you're still young.
2) Girls are a dime a dozen. You'll find someone new, especially when you head off to college. The problem you'll have is trying to manage them all!
3) Graduate, have fun, and look for a new school if you feel the school isn't a good fit. Did you sign a National Letter of Intent? If not, you're free to go anywhere you want.
4) Life gets a lot better!
Thanks this helps a lot. I haven’t signed anything yet. Is it selfish to move across the country without my family’s support?
RunningDerp wrote:
theJeff wrote:
Many people mention "religion" as sort of an optional self-help therapy. I would discourage this approach.
May I offer you some light reading? Study the preface and the first lesson. I would love to hear your thoughts on it.
http://www.savannahnavigators.com/uploads/4/9/4/3/49437375/lessonsonassurance.pdfDiscourages religion and then promotes a book on the world’s buggest religion.
LOL
Cue: “It’s not a religion, it’s a relationship”
I discouraged an approach.
Clueless kid wrote:
Thanks this helps a lot. I haven’t signed anything yet. Is it selfish to move across the country without my family’s support?
In a nutshell, Yes! First off, if you move across the country I can assume that you are paying for your education which would mean having to pay out of state tuition which would be very expensive. Although it is possible to work part-time and go to school, the money you would make would be so little it wouldn't offset the out of state tuition let alone just paying for a place to live. It would be better to stay in state as it much cheaper.
Dude don’t even think about having a serious relationship until your mid 20s. Go to whatever schools ol you want to. Do whatever you want to as long as it’s legal. Enjoy being young. Someday you will get married and have kids then you’ll have a real reason for anxiety. Chill out and live it up bro
OP: You’re depressed. Maybe you can run your way out of it and maybe you can’t. Go and see someone. Talk it out.
Life isn't about joy and having fun - those will always sour on you. Life is about duty and responsibility. If you have duties and responsibilities - someone or something that is counting on you to do something that is important to them, then you have a reason to live.
Fortunately, it is easy to develop duty and responsibility - something as simple as a pet that needs you to feed it and care for it can give you a good reason. Your teammates are there as people who count on you. Don't disappoint them.
Do you have family? Siblings, parents, aunts and uncles? They all depend on you and need you.
Focus on duty and you will get through this.
Your main task in life is to know thyself.
That's it.
Don’t live your life trying to please people, even your parents. If you want to go to a college in Timbuktu than go for it. People will let you down but follow your heart. You’re too young to let life beat you down. I blame it on the crazy societal pressure to “succeed”. Success is not how much money you make, where you go to school, who your friends are, who you are in relationship with, or how good of a runner you are. Success is following being who you are and following your dreams. People might criticize you for it but they’re just mad they didn’t live that way
3toedsloth spot on. Strongly suggest you journal your feelings, find a counselor and discuss what you wrote. Any family history of depression? Keep running, make it fun. Free endorphins result.
Another suggestion, find a worthy cause and volunteer. Getting off your own dime and helping others can keep things in perspective.
Let's keep the proselytizing to a minimum and try to help the kid understand his situation from a psychological perspective, mmkay?
As other posters have said, this sounds like textbook adolescent depression mixed with some existential angst. Just remember it is a temporary feeling and it will pass. Seek help if you feel like things are not changing. Some people might shame you for it, but there is no shame in feeling this way and trying to improve your situation. Don't be afraid to explore different perspectives on life than what you currently understand.
Thanks everyone. I have wondered at times if I am depressed but I would never admit that to anyone
Clueless kid wrote:
Thanks everyone. I have wondered at times if I am depressed but I would never admit that to anyone
There really isn’t anything to be ashamed for if you do indeed have depression. It is *extremely* common. If you think you may have it, you should seek out someone you feel comfortable to talk to about it (like a parent).
Do some serious long runs. Alone, in the mountains and preferably with no music. Your brains have to process things. You will find inner peace.
You'll be fine.
1. Keeping your HS girlfriend through college probably wasn't going to happen any way. Better to show up to college w/o a gf than with.
2. How are you sure this school isn't an academic fit if you haven't taken one class at this school? It sounds like you're making some big assumptions out of hand.
3. Get a summer job. Seriously you might not think this is a big deal, but if you're that deep into your own head, if you get a job you'll be distracted, you'll meet other people, and you might just realize that there are 35 and 40 year olds doing your "summer crap job" full time. That can be motivation in and of itself.
If you want to move or go to another school and you don't have parental support maybe you need to move across the state, or within the region?
I remember my first two years after HS being some of the most confusing messed up years of my youth. I watched a lot of my friends totally screw themselves up between the ages of 18-22, some of them didn't really get themselves back on track until their 30's. It can be a crazy time. You're totally unleashed after being completely shepherded through HS. You're like a writer with a blank sheet of paper... but you've got a bad case of writer's block.
Oh, here is this. Might be too deep, but funny:
The meaning of life is 26:17.