to understand how far we've fallen - imagine explaining what a "Stepdad" is to an ancestor

You don't think men took care of other men's children after someone died or just up and left? You think they just shot those kids out into the cold to die?

You have idiotic view of history if that is what you are implying.

quickndirty wrote:

You don't think men took care of other men's children after someone died or just up and left? You think they just shot those kids out into the cold to die?

You have idiotic view of history if that is what you are implying.

(literally my stepdad)

This has been happening for thousands and thousands of years. Before there was even language to say "dad."

stepbrother wrote:

"Well, he's a guy who's not the father of my children but he lives with and sleeps with the mother of my children and also hangs out with my kids most of the time and takes them on trips and buys them things. Oh yeah, and he also has his own kids that live with my kids even though they're not related through blood or kinship. I also have to pay my wife a large sum every month to help support her lifestyle....What's that? Oh no, this is completely normal in 2018."

*ancestors looks at you like ur a lunatic, slowly backs away*

Wow. You’re an idiot.

Not sure if you know what ancestor means....

stepbrother wrote:

"Well, he's a guy who's not the father of my children but he lives with and sleeps with the mother of my children and also hangs out with my kids most of the time and takes them on trips and buys them things. Oh yeah, and he also has his own kids that live with my kids even though they're not related through blood or kinship. I also have to pay my wife a large sum every month to help support her lifestyle....What's that? Oh no, this is completely normal in 2018."

*ancestors looks at you like ur a lunatic, slowly backs away*

You're adopted. Just thought you should know.

stepbrother wrote:

"Well, he's a guy who's not the father of my children but he lives with and sleeps with the mother of my children and also hangs out with my kids most of the time and takes them on trips and buys them things. Oh yeah, and he also has his own kids that live with my kids even though they're not related through blood or kinship. I also have to pay my wife a large sum every month to help support her lifestyle....What's that? Oh no, this is completely normal in 2018."

*ancestors looks at you like ur a lunatic, slowly backs away*

it's a horrible thing, but the reality is that horrible things have always been around

read the old testament and look at the shenanigans they were up to

Help U need wrote:

stepbrother wrote:

"Well, he's a guy who's not the father of my children but he lives with and sleeps with the mother of my children and also hangs out with my kids most of the time and takes them on trips and buys them things. Oh yeah, and he also has his own kids that live with my kids even though they're not related through blood or kinship. I also have to pay my wife a large sum every month to help support her lifestyle....What's that? Oh no, this is completely normal in 2018."

*ancestors looks at you like ur a lunatic, slowly backs away*

Wow. You’re an idiot.

care to elaborate, dork?

forgot the part where he posts videos of him and your sister on the internet.

Stepdads are to be applauded. It can be a difficult gig

Your ancestors would have a harder time understanding why women could vote, why the kids weren’t all working in the fields, etc. There is very little about how we live now that would make sense to your ancestors. A blended family would hardly be the thing they found confusing. Idiot.

umm? wrote:

This has been happening for thousands and thousands of years. Before there was even language to say "dad."

Indeed. That post-WWII image of a US nuclear family, with one wife-one husband bonding forever and raising only children they produced, is one family construct that was thought of as an ideal by many... but not the only.

Think of times and places like pioneering America, where an unmarried younger male would marry the widow of his brother to support kin.

Similarly, in my extended family, we had two situations where there were informal adoptions/takings-in of orphans, so nothing to trace "Auntie Jo's" and "Auntie Marge's" lineages.

John Utah wrote:

it's a horrible thing, but the reality is that horrible things have always been around

read the old testament and look at the shenanigans they were up to

In what way is it a horrible thing? My dad died when I was 11 and my mom remarried when I was 16 to a guy who was a fantastic father to me. I doubt that my story is uncommon.

stepbrother wrote:

"Well, he's a guy who's not the father of my children but he lives with and sleeps with the mother of my children and also hangs out with my kids most of the time and takes them on trips and buys them things. Oh yeah, and he also has his own kids that live with my kids even though they're not related through blood or kinship. I also have to pay my wife a large sum every month to help support her lifestyle....What's that? Oh no, this is completely normal in 2018."

*ancestors looks at you like ur a lunatic, slowly backs away*

Uninformed post...at best.

And what is this? I also have to pay my wife a large sum every month to help support her lifestyle.... why does a step-dad have to pay anyone? You assuming all step-dads are divorced?

R1200 wrote:

John Utah wrote:

it's a horrible thing, but the reality is that horrible things have always been around

read the old testament and look at the shenanigans they were up to

In what way is it a horrible thing? My dad died when I was 11 and my mom remarried when I was 16 to a guy who was a fantastic father to me. I doubt that my story is uncommon.

Based on his comments about paying child support, I'm assuming he's talking about a situation where one or both of the parents were not committed to the marriage and busted the family unit up for selfish reasons leaving behind an ugly mess. This situation is probably the norm. Your situation is totally different and I doubt any sane person would not give your dad respect.

I'm not a religious guy, but many people are aware of the Bible, and so most of the world is aware of the story of Jesus and the fact that he was raised by his stepdad. So in the last two thousand years over half the world has had a well known example. So which "ancestors" are you talking about? Ancestors since the reign of Henry and how he split the church to enable his divorce? Ancestors since the time of Jesus and Joseph? Please backpedal and inform us with a specific time period for the ancestors you are referencing.

The OP also missed Levirate marriages, in which G*d required a man to pretend to be a step-father by marrying his brother's widow, getting her pregnant and then giving the child his brother's name.

I wonder what the OP makes of the story of David & Bathsheba. That's nasty, even by the standards of reality TV.;

step wrote:

Help U need wrote:

Wow. You’re an idiot.

care to elaborate, dork?

Yeah. But I won’t. You minge face.

step wrote:

Help U need wrote:

Wow. You’re an idiot.

care to elaborate, dork?

Oh wow. A bigger idiot. Idiot.