deadbeat wrote:
Not getting into the gory details. Unhappy in my marriage and job a dream job offer waiting in a new city with a new woman. It's far away (not within driving distance). Love my kids but feel trapped by everything and getting more depressed by the day. I've been married for 9 years, 3 kids. Talk me off the ledge.
If it was simply a matter of leaving your wife and job for greener pastures, I wouldn't judge you too harshly. Marriage is a mistake to begin with...because people inevitably grow and change...and there is no reason to live in misery just because you made that mistake. There's time to recover what's left of your life.
But kids are involved, and you owe them. You brought them into this world, and you owe them a lifetime of teaching, emotional stability and financial support. If you want to ditch your wife, fine, but you had better make it amicable and be in close proximity to your children so that you disrupt their lives as little as possible.
Now the qualifier to the second paragraph is this: If you are already a crap, uninvolved, POS father and your kids are well on their way to hating you, then go ahead and make a clean break. Support them financially, but otherwise stay out of their lives.