nokids wrote:
ANY issues you have with money, your career, your spose, etc will magnified 1000x once you have a kid - make sure that
1) Your marriage is solid
2) Your financial situation is solid (not just for you, but for the future human you plan on creating)
3) you at least somewhat like your job
In my expereince, if you're missing one of these three, you're in for a rough time - divorce will be a real possibility and your kids will end up hating you, you'll have to move into a 1bd close to the ghetto and date single moms, figuring out what the hell happened to your life.
just my 2 cents. alternatively, just don't have kids.
20 years ago when we had our two kids:
1) Our marriage was solid (still is)
2) We lived on very little money
3) Hated my job and still do
We lived modestly, I started a company and worked really hard. My wife stayed at home. Used a library card to go to the zoo, aquarium, etc. with kids.
Both kids had a great education in our public schools and are attending highly rated private colleges. We are doing better financially but are having trouble like 99% of the population with tuition expenses.
At least for us if we had waited my wife would have been established in her career which she currently is now and we would have had more trouble with one of us not working.