I am confused. I live in a BIG 10 city in the Midwest, so I feel that cost of living is very reasonable. Last year I made $35,360 and I have no debt at all outside of my mortgage (My mortgage is down to $7616 after 21 years paying on it).
In 2010 I had a terrible health problem that has no cure, but I did not know that at the time and I pursued every avenue I could think of and because of this I spent $48,000 on medical care over 2010, 2011, and 2012. I had it all paid off by the end of 2012. Some of that was doctor visits (some were $400 each time, some were $100 a week for the therapist). Some of that was insurance premiums, so those were paid each month and never were debt. But at one point I had about $17,000 in medical bill debts. Again, paid off by 2012.
Add to this, in 2010 both tenants I had in my rental house moved 4 extra family turds into their 1-Bedroom apartments and I noticed the utilities were 4 TIMES what they should be. They had to be MOVED OUT. When I evicted them, they sent someone in there when it was empty to steal the copper plumbing. Now nobody can live there and the resulting damage ruined one water heater and one of the furnaces. So I was looking at about $10K in repairs.
To make things worse, the city charged me a $300 a month "monitoring fee" to watch the unoccupied house. So now the bills for the house were $1500 a month and no rent was coming in.
Add to this unforeseen problem, in 2015 I had to buy my own health insurance through the HCA marketplace and it was $250 a month.
Still own my OWN HOUSE and will pay it off THIS YEAR. Still own the rental (only owe $26,000 on it, so I am too stupid to sell it). Still going to work every day. I now have $460,000 in my 401K and $76,000 in my savings account next to my checking.
I have done this for 8 years now. Never took a loan from the bank or my parents. Never took a handout.
I am on pace to have both houses paid off by age 45, and am planning to buy a different one, a BETTER ONE, just after. I am on pace to have $1.45 M at retirement. Even if I never make more than $40K.
So you tell me how it is that you two (who MAKE THREE TIMES MORE THAN ME) need to have a handout?
You are an Engineer, so you are at the VERY LEAST a smart and reasonably organized person. You are not the run-of-the-mill American moran. You make $100K a year?!? That is $6000 a month conservatively after 10% 401K contribution and 20% withholding. $6000 a month. Even if your house payment is $2K, you should be able to find $500 a month to put onto this CC debt.
If not, BOTH OF YOU NEED to find a second job. Since you will have a baby, one of you can work weekends (probably your wife) and the other can work nights. Work at Home Depot on weekends or from 5-10PM. Be a cashier at 7-Eleven (open 24 hours). Start delivering pizzas (7 PM to 2 AM or 5 PM to 10 PM). Start a lawn cutting business in your neighborhood, where you cut 10 lawns every Saturday in your area for $30. Pocketing $1200 a month after a $1000 investment in equipment.
Have your wife work at Old Navy. Be a server at a restaurant or bar. If she is good at cooking, work for a caterer (odd hours and weekend hours are often available). Work at a clothing store on Saturday and Sunday. Have her start babysitting for your friends or people in your neighborhood). Many of you are probably laughing, but this is what it takes.
Minimum wage is now $9.25 in my state. So if it is similar for you, just 13 hours a week for both of you will $830 a month, and that is minimum WAGE!!! In seven months you will be free of this debt and you won't have to beg.
Get with it man!!