I was supposed to meet a date from online dating for drinks tonight. Not super enthusiastic but figured it was worth trying out because who knows. Anyway, my boss just came in and told me that I should add a few more things to our meeting/presentation tomorrow... and I don't think I have time to go on this date if I want to get that done. Is there any polite way to cancel? Even though I am not super enthusiastic about it, I feel bad canceling.
Go on the date.
Tell her up front how your boss sprang these changes on you last minute.
You win points from her right away. If things go well, you excuse yourself to do work. If things don't go well, it's your excuse to leave.
I thought millenials had a half dozen ready made excuses for cancelling dates. Come on, get with the program!
r435a wrote:
I was supposed to meet a date from online dating for drinks tonight. Not super enthusiastic but figured it was worth trying out because who knows. Anyway, my boss just came in and told me that I should add a few more things to our meeting/presentation tomorrow... and I don't think I have time to go on this date if I want to get that done. Is there any polite way to cancel? Even though I am not super enthusiastic about it, I feel bad canceling.
not smart enough to figure it out for yourself so you ask total strangers, eh Jamin?
4-5 hours in advance is nothing. I tell them after the date is over.
If you cancel, be man enough to call. Not text or e-mail bs.
"sorry my herpes is flaring up again."
Call her....don't text and reschedule.
slowerthanu wrote:
If you cancel, be man enough to call. Not text or e-mail bs.
This. 100%.
Why would I call during the work day? Seems quite rude.
Tell her your parents wont let you go. Works like a charm every time.
What is online dating even like? I don't mean this as a out down or as if I don't think it's a great idea, but I've never felt like finding dates isn't hard to do in real life. And I'm not some super rich guy with a chisled bod or something. There's always some potentials that I haven't asked yet, because I'm dating someone already or feel like being single at the time, and new potentials enter the scene every day. It's not like I'm stuck with knowing no one and having no clue what to do. Is it just a convenience sort of thing? Or is it because you just moved to a new city? I guess I could see moving somewhere new making is seem like an option at first.
Just say, "Something suddenly came up."
r435a wrote:
I was supposed to meet a date from online dating for drinks tonight. Not super enthusiastic but figured it was worth trying out because who knows. Anyway, my boss just came in and told me that I should add a few more things to our meeting/presentation tomorrow... and I don't think I have time to go on this date if I want to get that done. Is there any polite way to cancel? Even though I am not super enthusiastic about it, I feel bad canceling.
Tell your boss to do the work him(her)self. Unless you're being paid, your personal time is yours.
You may ruin a good potential relationship for something that won't matter at all an hour after it happens.
I'd send her a message saying literally it's not you it's me. Tell her that your in love with Almaz Ayana. Tell her that you want to stay friends, and you will bring her somewhere that does good grilled carp.
r435a wrote:
I was supposed to meet a date from online dating for drinks tonight. Not super enthusiastic but figured it was worth trying out because who knows. Anyway, my boss just came in and told me that I should add a few more things to our meeting/presentation tomorrow... and I don't think I have time to go on this date if I want to get that done. Is there any polite way to cancel? Even though I am not super enthusiastic about it, I feel bad canceling.
I mean really you can't come up with a little white lie. I got sick, death in the family, its not that hard.
It's a first meetup, from Tinder, and he isn't really even looking forward to it. Let's be honest here, there's no need for anything more than a simple text that says, "hey, sorry, but I had some work stuff come up that needs my attention tonight and right now it's a priority. Sorry for having to cancel." If he'd already met this girl in person and exchanged numbers while having a real, genuine conversation then a phone call would be more appropriate and the right thing to do.
What did the OP do?
Primo Numero Uno wrote:
r435a wrote:
I was supposed to meet a date from online dating for drinks tonight. Not super enthusiastic but figured it was worth trying out because who knows. Anyway, my boss just came in and told me that I should add a few more things to our meeting/presentation tomorrow... and I don't think I have time to go on this date if I want to get that done. Is there any polite way to cancel? Even though I am not super enthusiastic about it, I feel bad canceling.
I mean really you can't come up with a little white lie. I got sick, death in the family, its not that hard.
He already is. The boss adding things to the presentation is clearly BS.
The polite way to do it is to communicate the same way you have been communicating and tell the truth. I.E. "Sorry, my boss just dropped something big on my desk and I have to cancel. I'd still like to meet you and I should be available x, y, z, nights if any of those work for you. I'm really sorry for having to cancel, this is (or is not) a normal occurrence at my job."
I don't know why you care about being polite though if you aren't interested in meeting the person. People cancel on online dates all the time, it just goes with the territory.
slowerthanu wrote:
If you cancel, be man enough to call. Not text or e-mail bs.
Call her and cancel right now. Do it now, and don't reschedule.
Putting it off is being rude. Calling her now is being honest, and is the right thing to do.