Just a joe wrote:
no YOURE hilarious wrote:
This.
You are both missing the entire point. Getting all emotional and almost crying when confront was playing the woman card. Having me do all the stressful stuff was playing the woman card.
Too much on my plate was not it.
Okay, so you’re suggesting that becoming emotional and almost crying is playing the woman card? Rather than a component of this individual’s personality? So you’re suggesting that just because she is a woman, she will use that to become emotional and avoid work?
What you’re doing is projecting a stereotypical judgment of female behavior onto your female co-worker, rather than considering what part of her personality and individual behavior might lead to this behavior. Your saying that she does it just because she is a woman, not because of who she is a person. Because all women don’t engage in his behavior, then it’s unfair to simply say that she does it because she is a woman. You evaluate their behavior as an individual, not as the category they fit into.
Labeling, stereotyping, condemning by category are dangerous behaviors that lead to justications for discrimination (or even worse) against individuals. I’m not saying that’s what you are doing, but you are revealing an element of your thought process that simply reduces someone’s personality and behavior to a label or category. That’s hurtful to you and others.