People keep harassing me about my life and I don't know why.

Some people are just dicks.

I am pretty sure you are a troll. But I see one constant in all that you wrote and that is YOU!

Look deep within yourself and you will be able to figure out who the problem really is.

Minding My Business wrote:

Why does this keep happening?

Although it is 2017, people in general are as close-minded as 200 years ago. Rest assured, I personally commend you for being a high-earning gay prostitute and wish you the best!

Because you go along trying to please everyone and be really helpful but it is a thin disguise. Rather than do the hard and awkward thing by saying " I didn't ask for your input on my personal choices," or the old-fashioned, "none of your business," you wait until you blow up and cut them out of your life. And then you play the victim and ask, gee, why does this keep happening. That's why.

Well what is it that is so far out of the norm in the way you live your life that everyone else has issue with? If everyone is trying to tell you the same thing then maybe you are doing something wrong or you continue to associate with the same general type of people.

Probably for the same reason you came to LRC to ask about it.

You're not being very specific about what, exactly, their criticisms of you are: what is it that you're doing that everyone has a problem with? Are they all criticizing the same couple of traits? Absent some details, I can't tell if you really are doing something wrong or you tend to surround yourself (intentionally or unintentionally) with the same sort of people.

Some people can’t accept the homosexual lifestyle. But don’t let it bother you.

Not everyone is open to the pegging lifestyle yet. Just hang on for a few more years and things will get better. Just like your grandma spend more time on facebook than you, pretty soon your mom will be pegging more than you and you'll have to find something new.

Be More Specific wrote:

You're not being very specific about what, exactly, their criticisms of you are: what is it that you're doing that everyone has a problem with? Are they all criticizing the same couple of traits? Absent some details, I can't tell if you really are doing something wrong or you tend to surround yourself (intentionally or unintentionally) with the same sort of people.

They never criticize the same things. It's just them always saying whatever I do is wrong because I should have done something else. If I take a trip to Cambodia, they think it's stupid because I should have gone to Chile. If I took this job that pays 2X but requires a 40 min drive every day, they say I made a dumb choice because I should have taken the job that paid 1X but was 10 min away. If I break up with someone I absolutely did not want to be with, they think I should have married her. If I say I'm not interested in a serious relationship right now because I'm focusing on other things in my life, they say I'm too old and need to find a wife (I'm 29). If I go hiking at Mt. St. Helens, they say that was dumb because I should have gone and visited some other place. If I like running and lifting weights at the gym, I'm a loser because my life would be so much better if I climbed on the rockwall like they do instead. It just goes on and on and on.

Like I say, as far as I can tell, it's just jealousy and insecurity. I'm naturally pretty good (not necessarily great but pretty good) at a lot of different things, manage my money very well (so it appears I'm much wealthier than I actually am), and stay in good shape because I live an active lifestyle and don't really like junk food, so outwardly there appears to be things for people to be jealous of, but it all seems so trivial to me. I say it's mostly jealousy because the criticism is usually about things that they wish they could do or are unhappy about. If being athletic is part of their identity, they criticize my exercise. If traveling is something they've always wanted to do, they criticize where I travel to. If they're in the same field that I'm in, they criticize the job I have. Sometimes they just like to rant at me though too, like urging me to get married when that's none of their business. It just gets old.

I guess it's mostly just losers who never really do anything themselves, so they criticize others who actually are doing things.

You are way too concerned with what other people think and are an egomaniac. People don't want to be around people who perceive themselves to be flawless. The problem with being that way is you see the flaws in others but never yourself. That is why you cannot maintain a healthy relationship. At 29 you are reaching the male biological clock. At this age most of your friends are getting married and starting meaningful lives with others. You feel left out because you are not (or to be more exact, you feel they are abandoning you rather than the truth, which is they are starting a life partnership with another). Just because someone views life differently than you doesn't mean you can't still be civil with them. You sound sad. Take a look at what you can do that would make you happier / more fulfilled. I have a brother that behaves like you do. He is intelligent (phd and dual masters), but never really learned how to relate to others (long line of jobs because he couldn't keep his ego in check and had a hard time respecting the ideas of others). Take a deeper look at yourself before blaming others.

Gonna go out on a limb here and say it's not them, it's you.

Minding My Business wrote:

I guess it's mostly just losers who never really do anything themselves, so they criticize others who actually are doing things.

As another poster said, its you, not them.

The wall-of-text troll is lrc's most boring troll.

Just tell them "keep it to yourself, it's my life"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3JFEfdK_Ls&sns=em

Why do you care so much? I have had similar situations. I prefer to live and let live and can accept differences in people. Living independently feels comfortable for me. Do you speak to your mother at all? I'm just curious.

If you wake up in the morning and you run into an a$$hole, you might be having a bad day. If it’s a$$holes all day long, maybe you are the a$$hole.

Hi Jamin!

bgm wrote:

Why do you care so much? I have had similar situations. I prefer to live and let live and can accept differences in people. Living independently feels comfortable for me. Do you speak to your mother at all? I'm just curious.

The whole point of my posts was that I DO live and let live. I have no problem with people living their lives however they want. I never tell others how to live their life. I sometimes offer advice if it seems warranted, but I don't force it or repeatedly do this. With the people I am talking about, the relationship became toxic and had to be ended because they essentially never stopped criticizing me, lecturing me, giving unsolicited advice, and telling me how my life choices were wrong. And I DO communicate to them that I didn't ask their opinion or tell them that I have different priorities and/or values than them, but in the cases where I've terminated relationships, that did not help.

It's not everyone either. I have good relationships too. But this seems to happen a lot.