An "emotional affair" that involved making out

You need to make a decision: either leave her or forgive her. One or the other forever. I would tend to choose the latter in your situation, but only you can decide. If there's something specific she can help you with, let her know how she can help, but you're just have to believe her that it didn't go any further than she says. Not because you know she's right, but because trust is the most important thing in a relationship.

she rimmed me too, bro, and it was awesome. of course, i returned the pleasure with grateful enthusiasm.

face it, she's just not that into you and you're a sap for pretending otherwise.

people grow apart, time to move on.

lol this is great

Is your wife in middle school? 3 months of a relationship and they only made out? I call BS. She effed him but knows it will cause you to dump her so she wont tell you.

Trickle truth hurts. What hurts more is letting this fester. She doesn’t respect you if she did this. She’s not gonna respect you in the future either now that she knows what she can get away with. Why should she? She cheated and got away with it. Oh and having sex “regularly” doesn’t mean anything and she can find someone else more invigorating easily if that’s your barometer. It takes a lot more on your part to develop the world where she fears losing you.

If she loved you she’ll be ok with you having a fling too for fairness.

You have open access to her phone messages? You track her physical location?? You've considered giving her a lie detector test???

Sorry my man, but that just ain't right. My suggestion is to terminate your marriage because her cheating has very clearly driven you to psychopathy. (I mean, just look at who you're coming to for advice.) You haven't forgiven or moved on from sh*t.

Pics of your wife?

Probably a troll but I'll bite anyway:

Oh you can probably eventually forgive her. But, deep down you will NEVER be able to trust her fully again. Move on. It will be very hard but it will save you a ton of pain in the long run.

Sure we are all human and make mistakes. But some mistakes are too much. There are women out there who would never do that kind of thing in the first place. Even if they are unhappy with the marriage, there are many more responsible ways of reacting than this. How about finding one that will actually communicate with you BEFORE something like this happens. It sounds like she lacks emotional intelligence and impulse control.

Zehnder88 wrote:

by the time May arrived it was in full swing, hundreds of texts back and forth.

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You have a different idea of "in full swing" than I do.

Jumba wrote:

Zehnder88 wrote:

by the time May arrived it was in full swing, hundreds of texts back and forth.

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You have a different idea of "in full swing" than I do.

No holes barred either-- for both of us.

OP, what are you a "Christian" from Indiana?

Even so you're a psychopath-- or acting that way-- and you both need to get the hell away from each other.

No wonder she never pegged you, you couldn't handle the pleasure.

My cousin married a dude and had a child with him. Began an affair at some point, divorced the dude, and married the other guy. Two or three years later that ended in divorce. She's now back again married to the first dude. They've been married now for almost 20 years not including the 5 or 6 the first time around.

Not sure why the dude took her back, but the point is some people are capable of forgiving and moving on. Good luck to you

Dude!! b@ngg!! That's b@angg, as in slang for sexual intercourse, lots of it, hard hot sweaty n fast. Why delude yourself? I've met dozens of women who tell their bfs/hubs things like this. Either welcum it with a new open arrangement - which will be good, she will be happy and do other things for you - or man up, quit it now.

Thank you. For the thoughtful and loving advice. I feel you are right. Its not an easy thing but must be done because I love her and I vowed before conceiving my now 5 yr old to not let another child grow up in this world without both parents.

Thank you

Yeah, it's going to be hard to accept this, but you are deluding yourself if you think they didn't have passionate sex.

Also, just so you know, lie detector tests are a bunch of crap. That's why they aren't admissible in court.