I keep being warned about post-nuptial shut off, but it doesn't make any logical sense to me?

Marriage becomes an intimacy that isn't limited to sex. Block out the noise.

Women hate sex and use it as a tool to get married. Once married prepair yourself to be alone, once you have kids very alone. You'll be cleaning the screen on your mancave laptop more often than your bed sheets.

Hugh Hefner made a living off of what's in store for you buddy

Men often become fat, lazy, and generally repulsive after marriage. The post-nuptial shutoff is a concept invented by such men to shift the blame to their partners.

Blaming the shutoff is easier than being like "yeah, I can understand why you don't want to screw the alcoholic walrus who shares your bed."

Two years?! LOL. You've barely been together.

you're confusing "liking" and "wanting" and it's not that she'll stop wanting sex, it's that she'll stop wanting sex from you. you grow weary of each other and/or have other priorities in your lives (namely kids). also don't confuse this with hating each other.

also it's oftentimes mutual: you won't want it as much either.

You're confusing lust and love. Pretty much all research has shown that after two years that in love, lust feeling fades and you are left with a relationship (hopefully) built on self respect and deeper love, and yes occasional sex. Your problem is none of your relationships have been long enough to run their natural course. When it really takes a U-turn is after the first kid (especially if her pregnancy is full of morning sickness or pre-term labor). If you can't envision a relationship without sex every day, then you are going to have a hard time being married (of course sex will become less of an issue for you as your testosterone naturally declines as you get older). Talk to some middle aged married women with a couple of kids about how they view sex (versus how they viewed it before kids) to get an idea of what you are looking at in the future. There is more to marriage than just sex. Kids are the best, and a lifetime partner and friend with benefits is invaluable. You just need to look long term and decide if you want to keep on having intense sexual relationships with random women (and probably end up with a VD or two and miss out on the experience of having and raising kids) or if you want to have a meaningful life experience with a woman who is your equal and children and all the good that can come of it. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

(Heterosexual) women love sex with MEN, just as men love sex with WOMEN. Read: "Evolution of Desire","Red Queen" and "Sperm Wars".

If you are low in sex drive, and she is too, go ahead and sign on to lifelong monogamy. If you (and she) are normal or above, buyer beware.

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Not Even Close Buddy wrote:

(Heterosexual) women love sex with MEN, just as men love sex with WOMEN. Read: "Evolution of Desire","Red Queen" and "Sperm Wars".

If you are low in sex drive, and she is too, go ahead and sign on to lifelong monogamy. If you (and she) are normal or above, buyer beware.

This is depressing me.

Logical and women.

The problem is probably that men stop "romancing"their wives after marriage. If you continue to woo her, if you keep the passion alive the way you did before the marriage everything will be fine. Work on the relationship after marriage and youll enjoy and have sex just as often....until children arrive.

Women like sex as a way to feel desirable and as a way to manipulate.

Once you are married to a woman then your opinion on her desirability is no longer relevant. And she has already gotten from you what she wanted. So . . .

Here are a few potential reasons

1) As you age you take on more and more responsibility and that fatigues you as much mentally as physically.

2) This is the biggest one: kids.

Also, I am not sure it happens "all of the sudden".

Maybe there is also something about living together and knowing that sex is available all the time (although not really) that makes it less of a "thing".

Then our bodies start to change with age. I know an attractive woman with a nice body who likes to point out her own physical faults. I am sure any guy would ignore (if he even noticed) them, but to her they are very real. Her boobs are not as pert as they were when she was 25 for instance. Her self image makes her think of herself as less desirable even if she is not to her partner.

Men go through more physical issues although some might also suffer from the above.

Been married 15 years and have sex 5 times a week so its obviously is an individual thing. I will say that some of my friends that have sex with their wives much less often act like any more than they actually have would be too much of a chore so its not that they are getting shut off.

Also, as other posters have said, you really can't predict what a woman will do and things can change fast.

Which of the following apply to your situation:

No Kids

Wife doesn't work or you make significantly more money than your wife

You are in a same sex relationship

You are having sex with more than just your wife

You are counting your hand in your total

What did all that crap mean? How does it explain, for example, why a woman would have sex with her fiancé every day for a few years, then marry him and as soon as that happens have sex dwindle to once a week, then once a month, and then birthdays and Christmas.

LOL

engagement after two years..women's magazines

Great job, lots of responses

8/10

I don't think "logic" has much to do with this, or with a lot of other things, for that matter.

Beta (and many alpha) dumpasses try to exchange financial security (provider-game) for sex, but it backfires the moment the ink dries on the contract. As someone else pointed out, she won the game the moment you handed her your b*lls at the altar.

I trade *D* for *P* and that is *it*. No promises of fidelity or security, only me and her and the chemistry and enjoyment of us being together. The most egalitarian, fair and satisfying exchange that exists between men and women.

If you have energy to have sex more than once a day, you are either unemployed or aren't training enough. This is LRC, not Runner's World, right? I guess OP works 4 hours a day down at his local Starbucks and then hobby jogs his difficult 15mpw training.