I stopped reading after a few posts. The only thing I can offer is a window into my experiences and some shortcuts. Here it is in a list of ten things to do.
#1 You are now entitled to work out like an Olympian
Most importantly keep those endorphins up. They help to soothe your soul and regain confidence.
#2 Love of your life or not, you put this b!tch on block
On facebook, on instagram, on snapchat, on twitter, even on yelp and flickr. Yelp and flickr, man. To the extreme, EVERYTHING! I am not kidding.
#3 Deactivate social media
Doesnt need to be forever but you need to stop checking for a bit. Minimum of a month. Dont argue.
#4 Stop taking your phone with you places
Message your friends. Make plans. But when it comes time to hang out, you turn that thing off, turn it face down and leave it on the charger. You can check it when you get home. Or better yet, give two rips and dont check it til 10am the next day. Make it a contest and see how long you can go without. That thing plays with your mind.
Live. Re-discover music. Laugh. Truly connect with your friends. Smile. Make new friends. Laugh more.
#5 Set Goals
Track. Cross Country. Marathons. Triathlons (eek). School (+1 +1 +1 +20). Social life. Family.
Youre here so it's permissable to say get up at 6am and run for an hour. Is that 5 miles? Is it 12? That's not important. You get up and you go. No questions, you are a machine. Machines do.
#6 Take weekend trips
Pack a tooth brush. Have a wad of cash in your pocket. Bring a single backpack but pack light. Head out without a plan minus going there and coming back. Go with the flow. Those are the best trips and I promise you will grow taking in new perspectives of life.
#7 Keep meeting new people
Name. Major. Hometown. Mnemonic devices to remember their name. Make them laugh. Next.
Repeat, repeat, repeat. Your late teens and 20s are all about meeting new people and networking. Build that mother f*cker up.
#8 Remove relationship mementos
Put it in a box. Bury it into the depths of your belongings. Leave it there. Not going to explain it further. Dont argue. No picture frames. No christmas sweaters. No stuffed animals. Sell it on craigslist if you have to the first low ball offer. Done.
#9 Write down all the things you didnt like about her
Physically write this out. How she decieved you. What she put ahead of you that she shouldnt have. The way she held certain opinions. The immature garbage she put you through. The dudes she was talking to that disrespected you.
After youre done writing it, burn it...Watch it burn too.
#10 Rehearse phrases
This is for everyone asking you including close friends and relatives. "We split up", "We are done", "[Cut throat motion] Finito", "I am single now". Dont dwell. Dont be sappy. One line, let it roll of the tongue easily and with confidence. Change the subject. Every obstacle is actually an opportunity. Remember that.