Coaching concerns in my xc team

Coaches are human and almost every coach has "favorite" athletes regardless of their ability.

You really should not concern yourself other than ensuring you train to the best of your ability.

Bottom line kid- why not try to stoke the girl. She is only going to be as good as she will be but with someone believing in her, she may become something. Maybe she has some weight to lose or fitness to gain and you'll see exponential gains....either way- telling someone they are going to be great is another way of telling an athlete they are going to get the coaches best effort to make them as good as they can be.

Don't take it so literal.

So your concerned that he's encouraging the girls team even though they suck?

Just run baby. Coach will show you love. As an incoming Freshman you haven't run a race yet. Give it time.

Lets Have A Reality Check wrote:

So your concerned that he's encouraging the girls team even though they suck?

Just run baby. Coach will show you love. As an incoming Freshman you haven't run a race yet. Give it time.

Uh, yeah we have. I ran 16:56 and she ran like 24. She doesn't have weight to lose, like the other guy said, but she is the fastest so far on the girl's team. We are both freshman and have only had a few practices over the summer to engage a team.

SUS wrote:

Lets Have A Reality Check wrote:

So your concerned that he's encouraging the girls team even though they suck?

Just run baby. Coach will show you love. As an incoming Freshman you haven't run a race yet. Give it time.

Uh, yeah we have. I ran 16:56 and she ran like 24. She doesn't have weight to lose, like the other guy said, but she is the fastest so far on the girl's team. We are both freshman and have only had a few practices over the summer to engage a team.

I'm confused. You've raced but only had a few practices? Season hasn't even started yet...

The coach's job is to help the girls' team be the best they can. One way to do that is to offer encouragement through setting goals and expressing confidence. Don't interfere with that. What the coach does for the girls doesn't detract from what he does for the boys. It's not your place to decide the best way to coach the girls, and no one will want to hear it coming from a pre-9th grader. That's just the facts.

Here's what YOU can do: Cheer for the girls' team in races. Congratulate them for hitting PRs and running tough races. Express confidence in them. If you can manage to avoid sticking your foot in your mouth too many times - look, you're 14 and male, so we can't ask for perfection - the girls might even talk to you eventually.

Here's a hint: before saying anything to a female, ask yourself, "Will this make me sound like I think I'm better than they are because my times are faster? Does it sound like I assume I know more about running, or that I work harder than they do?" If so, don't say what it.

No wonder your coach wants to encourage this girl instead of you. I wouldn't want to encourage a pretentious, little twerp who thinks that he is deserving of all the attention in the world because he has a mid-tier high school xc time. Learn some humility, focus on running, and keep your stupid non-problems off the message boards. Just run and don't worry that your coach is actually doing what he is supposed to.

I'm torn on whether I think this is a troll or not, which means it's a pretty solid troll if it is. On the one hand, it's hard to imagine that anyone would post this concern seriously. But on the other hand, I've experienced a number of cocky, petty, and misogynistic male high school runners who absolutely despise when their women's team gets any positive attention whatsoever, which makes this seem like a plausibly legitimate post.

For the sake of procrastinating at work, I'll treat this as real and pose two questions.

Could you clarify how this in any way constitutes a "coaching concern?"

How does your coach being highly encouraging and optimistic negatively influence your team?

SUS wrote:

Lets Have A Reality Check wrote:

So your concerned that he's encouraging the girls team even though they suck?

Just run baby. Coach will show you love. As an incoming Freshman you haven't run a race yet. Give it time.

Uh, yeah we have. I ran 16:56 and she ran like 24. She doesn't have weight to lose, like the other guy said, but she is the fastest so far on the girl's team. We are both freshman and have only had a few practices over the summer to engage a team.

so you are saying you are going after the girl?

FriendlyLobo wrote:

No wonder your coach wants to encourage this girl instead of you. I wouldn't want to encourage a pretentious, little twerp who thinks that he is deserving of all the attention in the world because he has a mid-tier high school xc time. Learn some humility, focus on running, and keep your stupid non-problems off the message boards. Just run and don't worry that your coach is actually doing what he is supposed to.

Yeah man I guess I'm a twerp. Also, the hell? Mid-tier high school time? Alright. I didn't say that I needed any attention. I'm saying our coach focuses on one person more than the entire varsity, when we have a chance to actually place well.

so a 14 year old girl who doesn't need to loose weight and your wondering why the coach is focusing on her?

Lets Have A Reality Check wrote:

SUS wrote:

Uh, yeah we have. I ran 16:56 and she ran like 24. She doesn't have weight to lose, like the other guy said, but she is the fastest so far on the girl's team. We are both freshman and have only had a few practices over the summer to engage a team.

I'm confused. You've raced but only had a few practices? Season hasn't even started yet...

Troll Troll Troll

SUS wrote:

FriendlyLobo wrote:

No wonder your coach wants to encourage this girl instead of you. I wouldn't want to encourage a pretentious, little twerp who thinks that he is deserving of all the attention in the world because he has a mid-tier high school xc time. Learn some humility, focus on running, and keep your stupid non-problems off the message boards. Just run and don't worry that your coach is actually doing what he is supposed to.

Yeah man I guess I'm a twerp. Also, the hell? Mid-tier high school time? Alright. I didn't say that I needed any attention. I'm saying our coach focuses on one person more than the entire varsity, when we have a chance to actually place well.

Look at it this way, your coach has more confidence in you and the varsity guys than he does in this girl. Stop acting like a child who isn't getting his way and focus on your own running. Come the end of the season, your coach will be looking at you guys to place well in state. He just isn't going to say that right now because he doesn't want it to get to your heads.

The fact you have such an issue with the coach encouraging an athlete that isn't you speaks more to your lack of character than anything you can pin on the coach.

Get over yourself and just run.

4/10. Blatant ripoff of the "coach texting my daughter" thread, but you have already gotten some serious replies, so points for that.

So you are on the boys team and she is on the girls team? Why do you give a rip? Work on yourself and your team and let the coach handle the girls the way he thinks is best. Not the hill you want to die on, unless you just like drama in your life.

Why are you so mentally weak that you need validation and attention from your coach?