I need help with forced leave of absence for failing grades

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6 years ago 06/18/2017 4:46pm EDT

Hi, I just finished my first year at an engineering college and miserably failed the last semester. For info, I'm an international student and it was my first time in US. Everything going on in the country and back in my home country was really hard to swallow and I had personal hardships as well with relationships and stuffs. I know I should have reached out for help but I just couldn't do anything but be stuck in the bed for the last whole month. That screwed up my grades and I just flew back to my home for rest.

The problem is that I've been trying not to remind myself of school stuff and checked my emails way too late. The college sent me an email "advising" a required leave of absence. I have no idea what to do with it. What impacts will it have on my future? What if they refuse my return? I also have no idea how to tell this to my parents who are literally giving up their future life plans for my education. What should I do? I really need help, I'm scared.

6 years ago 06/18/2017 7:05pm EDT

re: Jangpan

Grovel to someone at the college explaining how it was just a rough patch and you'll get back on track.

6 years ago 06/18/2017 9:32pm EDT

re: Jangpan

Do you have an academic advisor assigned to you? Are there any advising resources specifically for international students? I would reach out to them ASAP. Explain what's going on (no need to bare your soul, but be honest) and ask for help. They should be able to help you assess your situation and navigate through the process.

You should clarify right away whether the college is REQUIRING you to take a leave of absence or not. You also should try to figure out what your options are to get back into good academic standing (e.g., take summer classes). Finally, you need to think about the reasons why your last semester went off a cliff and whether some time away from school would in fact help you sort through those issues (or if not, what would).

A word of advice for the future. It's OK to struggle sometimes, but you have to be proactive in asking for help BEFORE things get to the point where you are going to fail a class, or multiple classes. Trust me, I've been there.

6 years ago 06/19/2017 5:03am EDT

re: Jangpan

6 years ago 06/19/2017 5:19am EDT

re: Times?

Give up running, video games and chicks (or in your case online porn), at least for the time being.

6 years ago 06/19/2017 6:34am EDT

re: Jangpan

Typically universities allow you to appeal. My brother appealed, claimed mental illness two more times after that and he never really had to sit out. After 7 years he graduated too and is doing relatively well for himself.

6 years ago 06/19/2017 9:21am EDT

re: Times?

you should get psychological counseling too. theres NO shame in it. it sounds like you justbwent through a really hard time and didnt know how to manage it. at the vey least they might help you manage stress, personal/work life balance, etc so you dont find yourself in this situation again.

lrc dont be hard on this person clearly thsyre under a lot of pressure. ive been there too. you can get through it but trust me it isnt by just "pushing" trough it with the same coping mechanisms and habits you have now. trust me there are much better ways to handle stress and you will be much happier and more productive.

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