Anyone been to a wedding post divorce?

Have fun, socialize, and be thankful it's not you getting married again, since the odds of getting divorced a second time are that much higher after the first.

When they get to the 'till death do us part blurt out that they are both still alive.

Thanks man for the advice but was hoping for a little bit more sympathy...coming off from a recent divorce to seeing a wedding in a short period. I just don't want to embarrass myself by making a fool of myself...that's all. Besides, I'm going solo and makes me feel more foolish..lol

I never chime in on these divorce threads but I will on this one.

1) I think you'll hold up better than you think. The wedding day isn't for you, it's for the couple.

2) I've been to at least two weddings post-divorce and really enjoyed them, one more so than the other. I definitely don't have the bitter attitude of "glad it's not me (getting married)" like the poster above. I don't think that's your attitude either as it sounds like you still look highly on marriage.

I'm like a fly on the wall, looking at the other couple with a sense of amusement that they can make it work or at least are trying to make it work. A wedding is a great day of hope.

3) As for going by yourself, that gives you the opportunity to meet someone else. Even if you're not ready to start dating again, just getting out there with the possibility of it, I think will be a good thing for you.

Good luck and have a good time.

If you feel bad just make fun of their PRs.

Bitter Sweet Divorcée wrote:

Thanks man for the advice but was hoping for a little bit more sympathy...coming off from a recent divorce to seeing a wedding in a short period. I just don't want to embarrass myself by making a fool of myself...that's all. Besides, I'm going solo and makes me feel more foolish..lol

Not sure what the big deal is. I recently had a family member die. I don't get all bent out of shape every time I see someone who is alive.

Their wedding isn't about you, and has nothing to do with your divorce.

My mother told me this wonderful piece of advice: "The first time you marry is for furniture, the second, for love."

Go to the wedding, have fun, remember it's their special day and perhaps that will give you a glimmer of hope that one day it'll be you again, with someone who you love more than anything.

Hey Wejo,

First off, I appreciate your input/commenting on this thread...wow!..;)

Seriously, I know I'm being a bit sappy but I will be alright. Like you I went to a wedding few months ago while getting a divorce and it was really difficult b/c I came by myself and my emotions were all over the place. I got emotional and didn't stay too long (it was a young couple) and this weekend it's a friend of mine who's gone through a divorce a few years ago and finally find her mate again? Not hundred convinced but happy for her either way. I guess this ceremony will be more bitter sweet, close to home and will be interesting. I'm a people person in general and don't have a problem meeting others. I'm just not sure I'm willing to open myself to be vulnerable again or let's say I will guard myself somewhat I guess. Unless, someone gives me too much...🍷

Thanks again for your response...:)

what's the big deal? wrote:

Bitter Sweet Divorcée wrote:

Thanks man for the advice but was hoping for a little bit more sympathy...coming off from a recent divorce to seeing a wedding in a short period. I just don't want to embarrass myself by making a fool of myself...that's all. Besides, I'm going solo and makes me feel more foolish..lol

Not sure what the big deal is. I recently had a family member die. I don't get all bent out of shape every time I see someone who is alive.

Their wedding isn't about you, and has nothing to do with your divorce.

Ummmm...I didn't say it did. Maybe the fact my marriage recently ended and I'm having to be reminded of going to a wedding/ceremony that I thought would last. And yeah, maybe I still have hope in the belief of marriage...I will always be a romantic at heart til I die...sorry if that offends you.

Bitter Sweet Divorcée wrote:

what's the big deal? wrote:

Not sure what the big deal is. I recently had a family member die. I don't get all bent out of shape every time I see someone who is alive.

Their wedding isn't about you, and has nothing to do with your divorce.

Ummmm...I didn't say it did. Maybe the fact my marriage recently ended and I'm having to be reminded of going to a wedding/ceremony that I thought would last. And yeah, maybe I still have hope in the belief of marriage...I will always be a romantic at heart til I die...sorry if that offends you.

I said nothing to indicate that I am offended. You are electing to connect two things that do not need to be connected (their wedding and your divorce), and are worried that you will make a fool of yourself as a result. I am simply suggesting that you can avoid making a fool of yourself by not electing to make that particular false and unnecessary mental connection.

You are only worried about becoming emotional because you are drawing a connection between your divorce and their wedding. Just don't do this and you'll be fine.

Thanks for your insight. Curious, are you divorced?

Bitter Sweet Divorcée wrote:

it was really difficult b/c I came by myself

Aren't you well practiced in the art?

I don't think I'd go to anyone's second wedding. I would feel like I was signing up to go to their 3rd and 4th wedding, too. If they were smart they would be doing it with a core group at most.

PNSO wrote:

Bitter Sweet Divorcée wrote:

it was really difficult b/c I came by myself

Aren't you well practiced in the art?

No, not all. I can't draw or write or play the piano. Just because I was having some fun on here doesn't mean you have to label me without knowing who I really am. It was a bit awkward going to the first couple's wedding because everyone was with someone and I was fresh in the middle of a divorce. Btw, you might want to look at yourself a little harder since you're implying. Cheers!

Cut to the chase: drink a lot and hook up with a hot bridesmaid, everyone gets laid at a meaningless wedding. Time to get back in the mix and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Get trashed and have fun. You have an excuse for your behavior.

Your wedding toast should consist of nothing but LR memes.

Bitter Sweet Divorcee wrote:

PNSO wrote:

Aren't you well practiced in the art?

No, not all. I can't draw or write or play the piano. Just because I was having some fun on here doesn't mean you have to label me without knowing who I really am. It was a bit awkward going to the first couple's wedding because everyone was with someone and I was fresh in the middle of a divorce. Btw, you might want to look at yourself a little harder since you're implying. Cheers!

He was making a sexual joke....

Pfft. Find a bridesmaid or other guest in a similar situation and enjoy. You won't be the only one in that boat there.