Graduating college - break up with girlfriend or not?

Lots of girls out there. No reason to get attached to this one at this point in your life.

Where is she at? How far is "distance"?

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need girl advice wrote:She could be wife material

Do her a favor and break up with her today.

not hard at all wrote:

Lots of girls out there. No reason to get attached to this one at this point in your life.

Right answer. It's as much for her as it is you.

If you don't want the relationship to continue then have some balls and tell her how you feel rather than stringing her along like some kind of piss ant jerk off.

It'll probably be hard for you two to make it. A big dense city like Chicago is going to be a new world for you unless you're from city proper in LA, SF or Seattle. There are tens of thousands of single, professional women in your age range there, and you'll quickly grow out of the college scene let alone talking about it on the phone.

However, I know many happily married couples who met in college. They all stayed together without breaks, mostly without leaving the large city we attended college in, and nearly all who ended up married didn't​ make graduate studies the focus after undergrad.

Breakup. You wouldn't move away if you really loved her.

I think the previous post has some valuable insight. If the relationship was a higher priority for you (since your finishing college 2 years ahead of the GF), then you would be considering other graduate school or career plans to stay in the area and continue the relationship. You are asking too much (of yourself and her) to think you can move to another city for the next professional opportunity for two years and see if there's enough to maintain a long-distance relationship.

The following is probably the most genuine thing I have posted on this site so please read!

If you love each other you will make it work plain and simple. be sure that you genuinely love each other. (you say you want to breakup to let her enjoy her years and not worry about you) that is a sign of love because you are wishing only for her happiness. If you both truely love each other the distance will be no problem. So there is no worries.

You've already chosen another life path over a life path with her. THAT by itself is "breaking up with her". You might as well make it official.

judging from the OP i get the impression that you've already convinced yourself that she'll be screwing other people once you're gone.

just move on. it wont take her long to get over you.

Docta Fill wrote: judging from the OP i get the impression that you've already convinced yourself that she'll be screwing other people once you're gone.

just move on. it wont take her long to get over you.

He knows that she already is. She is a woman, therefore.... she's already over you anyway, but you won't be over her.

TAA wrote:

Breakup. You wouldn't move away if you really loved her.

This is the answer. Simple, sad, and true.

Never done this myself, but I've known people who suggest breaking up but staying as very close friends. And, once she's done with undergrad, if you still want to make it work, you can reassess. You'll have more money and she will have the freedom to choose where to do her master's.

well wrote: You'll have more money and she will have the freedom to choose where to do her master's.

You mean, "she will have the freedom to choose where, how and by whom, to get mastered." Exactly!

yes

I think breaking up would be for the best, that way she can continue to cheat on you with frat guys without feeling guilty