You're in the wrong place for serious answers.
It's not that you did something wrong, but young girls do stupid decisions all the time. Peer pressure, trying to impress, wanting material comfort...
Does she works/study? Has good grades? Well behaved and respectful?
If yes, then don't worry, you did what you could.
Doesn't rapper R Kelly, over 30, date 14 year olds?
letsdad wrote:
She is 21 and he is THIRTY. What the what! Where did I go wrong.
Not wrong from a legal standpoint but festering in the realm of impropriety, don't you think? Am I being old fashioned?
You have to ask yourself this: Would you be OK with him if he's a 30 yr old doctor that attended a prestigious school and comes from a good upstanding family, a 30 year old professional athlete, or 30 year old bartender?
I don't think it's a problem. I've dated plenty of guys who were nine years old.
Oh, nine years older. Hmm, I can't really speak to that.
When I was 28, I dated a 21 year old. We are married with kids and have been together for 18 years. My wife had graduated from college and was living on her own. That does make a difference versus an older guy cruising the dorms.
The age gap is not that much of a concern at that age. I would be more concerned with whether the guy has had lots of girlfriends or is divorced. Some guys go young because they are damaged goods and cannot handle being in a committed relationship.
letsdad wrote:
She is 21 and he is THIRTY. What the what! Where did I go wrong.
Not wrong from a legal standpoint but festering in the realm of impropriety, don't you think? Am I being old fashioned?
This board is absurd. A 21 yo dating a 30 yo is nuts, at least from the outside looking in. Everyone saying you're just old fashioned is laugh out loud funny.
letsdad wrote:
She is 21 and he is THIRTY. What the what! Where did I go wrong.
Not wrong from a legal standpoint but festering in the realm of impropriety, don't you think? Am I being old fashioned?
You should know older guys are a better in bed. More experience.
This sort of thing used to bother me when I was a college boy. Now I'm in my late 20s and sleep with college girls 7-10 years younger than me all the time. It's awesome.
letsdad wrote:
She is 21 and he is THIRTY. What the what! Where did I go wrong.
Not wrong from a legal standpoint but festering in the realm of impropriety, don't you think? Am I being old fashioned?
Well, the fact that you would come here for parenting advice is a good (bad?) sign that your parental skills are seriously lacking.
More likely (I hope) is that you are a troll.
Unfortunately yes, this is breaking the old rule of 1/2 your age plus 7. A 30 year old can go after 22+. Please see the chart:
https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Half-age-plus-seven-relationship-rule.svg
There's nothing wrong with the situation. It mostly depends on the chemistry between two. You need to talk to her and the guy to figure out what they're looking to get out of the relationship.
rule breaker wrote:
Unfortunately yes, this is breaking the old rule of 1/2 your age plus 7. A 30 year old can go after 22+. Please see the chart:
https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Half-age-plus-seven-relationship-rule.svg
I thought the rule was your age minus your age plus ten?
rule breaker wrote:
Unfortunately yes, this is breaking the old rule of 1/2 your age plus 7. A 30 year old can go after 22+. Please see the chart:
This "rule" doesn't make any sense. Something like 20% of the population is not allowed to date someone their own age using this formula.
Come dumpster wrote:
Guaranty you that the dude is plowing your daughter. As soon as she starts to age he will get another 21 year old to drill. Nothing you did wrong. Obviously the guy has game picking up a 21 year old at 30
You know this how?
doo doo wrote:
I thought the rule was your age minus your age plus ten?
30 minus (30+10)= -10
so a 30 year old guy can only date a girl who is not going to be born for another ten years-----talk about robbing the cradle!!!
letsdad wrote:
She is 21 and he is THIRTY. What the what! Where did I go wrong.
Not wrong from a legal standpoint but festering in the realm of impropriety, don't you think? Am I being old fashioned?
When i was 25 I dated a 18 yr old, who was a HS senior. Her opinion was that the guys in her age rage were idiots. Once we eventually broke up about a year or so later I was dating a 40 year old. In her case she wanted a much younger guy, for reasons I won't go into. in any event, a 9 year age difference is no big deal once you get into the 20's, if both are above the age of 20. Most (but not all) guys by the age of 30 have lost a bit of the idiocy that typically guys in their low to mid 20's are saddled with. So I'd not be worried.
letsdad wrote:
She is 21 and he is THIRTY. What the what! Where did I go wrong.
Not wrong from a legal standpoint but festering in the realm of impropriety, don't you think? Am I being old fashioned?
If you were old fashioned you'd be upset she didn't date a 30 year old when she was 16-18.
It is fine. I am 81 and she is 46. We've been married for 20 years. I was also her unofficial step-dad at one point in time. Please to meet you, can you guess my name?
"Spring a big woody" Allen
Woody A. wrote:
It is fine. I am 81 and she is 46. We've been married for 20 years. I was also her unofficial step-dad at one point in time. Please to meet you, can you guess my name?
I'll guess it Soon.
