Is it possible to be friends with girls if you have a girlfriend?

I didn't feel like reading that since it is one huge paragraph.

So I just read the subject line. My answer: no.

Too long didn't read but my answer is the same as the previous poster: No.

She might even be trying to set you up with her friend.

I recommend passing her up on the food and then inviting her to the next thing you and your GF host at your place. And if you don't ever host things at your place then maybe it's time to do so.

Yes and no. I am glad I tried it, but it doesn't really work for everything staying all platonic and chummy. Females have a competition impulse, a gf or even the possibility of a girl friend triggers it and they will start to cross the line, even if they don't know why.

yes you can be friends duh

tl;dr

to answer the question in the subject, however - yes, of course it is possible, as long you and your girlfriend are secure and self-confident adults. If either of you is an insecure jealous twit, or a teenager, then it will not work.

No. Not since humanity emerged has this been possible.

I believe it is called "menage a trois"?

the more interesting answer is yes, if you are comfortable with flirting.

look, if a man and woman are friends, they will wonder about the other romantically. It's going to happen. But that isn't automatically bad. Unless one is so weak you think you have to make a move. There is nothing wrong with the 'celebrate the difference' sort of fun men and women can have together.

you just have to draw a line in the right place. It's not that hard really.

Sumdude wrote:

tl;dr

to answer the question in the subject, however - yes, of course it is possible, as long you and your girlfriend are secure and self-confident adults. If either of you is an insecure jealous twit, or a teenager, then it will not work.

Agree

Obvious troll. Nobody here has a girlfriend.

This new female friend must be at least 1.5/10 below your current GF.

If your GF is a 7, new girl cannot be higher than 5.5

Sounds bad but it's true.

Sumdude wrote:

as long you and your girlfriend are secure and self-confident adults.

Have you ever even met a girl?

Also didn't read your post, but the answer is no.

You can only keep this up if your GF knows the other girl well, too. If not, you and your current GF are going to go through some interesting jealousy stuff.

Real deal man, it isn't fair to your current GF to disappear with some other girl even though you are "just friends".

I am very often not comfortable flirting. If I don't like the girl she will stop and if I do I want to hit it. Now that's not always a good idea, but it's there.

People who are comfortable with flirting are doing it to promote something else like business or just social lubrication(yeah I said lubrication). too many do it to get favors. You'll see sales people flirt , talk show hosts flirt with everyone, and gays flirting with girls all the time just to keep a persons attention, or to keep things flowing socially. I don't like this kind of thing. Flirt if you mean it , or if it's obviously for fun( not manipulation) , or an obvious compliment gesture.

C'est Tout wrote:

Sumdude wrote:

tl;dr

to answer the question in the subject, however - yes, of course it is possible, as long you and your girlfriend are secure and self-confident adults. If either of you is an insecure jealous twit, or a teenager, then it will not work.

Agree

Agree. While plenty of women fit this profile, it is rare to find a secure, well balanced dude. In summary, the odds are not in the OP's favor.

Sumdude wrote:

tl;dr

to answer the question in the subject, however - yes, of course it is possible, as long you and your girlfriend are secure and self-confident adults. If either of you is an insecure jealous twit, or a teenager, then it will not work.

This. It's pretty simple... If you trust each other, there should be no issues.

That's not to say that I don't freak the F### out when my girlfriend goes on rock climbing adventures with a group of dudes... I just don't voice those concerns because that's when S### really hits the fan.

I read your post. Doesn't change my answer.

If you're attracted to her, then no. I'm guessing you're attracted, because otherwise there is no question.

I think the real question is how serious are you about your GF? If you don't see a future with her, then New Girl has a much higher benefit:cost ratio, and you're silly for staying in the LTR.