If so, how do you cope?
If so, how do you cope?
There is no such thing
Twin sons my friend. You can just pay their way through.
That's on you. Years of screwing up as a parent have culminated in THIS moment. Good job!
Idontreallyknow wrote:
There is no such thing
So true .
The parents of the dumb ones are afraid of their progeny taking standardized tests .
Yet ,they will find an institution (dump) for their Zachs and Mileys to attend .
There is a lid for every garbage can .
Taxpayer subsidized , of course .
There are some 1147 universities in the NCAA. Probably another 300 or so private colleges & community colleges. Plus a "handful" or several "handfuls" of 2-year schools depending what state you are in.
Plainly there are options for everyone. I will remain optimistic and say these kids havent found their niche. Best to go at their own pace until something clicks because they wont do it just to do it. They must want to do it and have a sound academic strategy.
That said, op must do a lot of self reflection before pressuring his/her kids aggressively. Usually lackluster children are the result of lackluster parenting. Even if you think you've given them "everything" maybe it's not about the materialism but rather a failure on your part to be an adequate role model and a failure in the context that you did not help them formulate goal-oriented individual identities.
Actually, there are about 4000 four-year colleges and universities, and another 4,000 two-year community colleges in the USA. So there really is a program for most anyone out there.
No one does. Every child is a special snow flake.
jfhfjhfjh wrote:
If so, how do you cope?
You are asking the wrong question. Your children can have a very happy, successful life doing an apprenticeship or attending a trade school. The world will always need mechanics and plumbers. I have several family members who never went to college that make more money than I do, and I have my Masters degree. (Granted, I became a teacher… But that one is on me 😬)
Honestly, shame on anyone who thinks they need to "cope" with someone else not attaining such an arbitrary goal.
Isn't why they invented programs such as anthropology, political science...
There are plenty of clown colleges out there
Realistically, more than 50% of the college students should not be attending college in the first place. Whatever, little they gain from it leads to a reduction of the GDP. They should actually be productive members of society rather than a drain for these 4 years.
So what is the difference to the US competitiveness if you (also) send your child to college (you pay enough, you get in...)
Nope- schools across the country are churning out dimwits at historic rates these days. It's not hard for anyone with a modicum of intelligence and decent work ethic to shine in the face of that sad reality.
I have some advice. I have several graduate degrees, and here is what I tell parents of kids who are worried about them being employed after college.
"Tell them to be a plumber, they will never ever be out of work, and their income potential is limitless, no matter what condition our economy is in.."
I hate to brag, and often get irritated at the lying braggarts here. But that's because so many lie.
My kids have 3.95 GPAs in engineering and chemistry. And one scored 98% in the MCATs. So take that you right-wing climate-denying head up hour a__ motherfkkers.
676 wrote:
I have some advice. I have several graduate degrees, and here is what I tell parents of kids who are worried about them being employed after college.
"Tell them to be a plumber, they will never ever be out of work, and their income potential is limitless, no matter what condition our economy is in.."
Few people actually have the genetics to be a plumber. A waist that is situated 4 inches below the top of your butt crack is not that common.
Alt Nation wrote:
I hate to brag, and often get irritated at the lying braggarts here. But that's because so many lie.
My kids have 3.95 GPAs in engineering and chemistry. And one scored 98% in the MCATs. So take that you right-wing climate-denying head up hour a__ motherfkkers.
One scored 98% of what? Percentile? That's not bad, but 99th is what the smart kids score, just FYI. Also, 4.0 is the GPA that you get now unless you do really poor work and get some Bs. That said, there are some excellent religious schools that will take your kids.
Eat sh*t and die. We are at war.
Marrying the hot str*pper doesn't seem so smart now, does it?
My kids are the smartest and are extremely above average. Any lack of success has been due to unlucky circumstances. They are extreme geniuses but they don't test well. Those kids who get perfect scores and 99.9th percentile on everything are just good test takers but not as smart as my kids.
Huh? You should see some of the knuckle-draggers at the public State Schools in Pennsylvania.
Unless your kid has Down Syndrome, he/she is in. I've even met some high-functioning Down Syndrome kids that could perform better academically than some of the idiots I see at these so-called "learning institutions".
Kranky wrote:
Huh? You should see some of the knuckle-draggers at the public State Schools in Pennsylvania.
Unless your kid has Down Syndrome, he/she is in. I've even met some high-functioning Down Syndrome kids that could perform better academically than some of the idiots I see at these so-called "learning institutions".
True. Big Ten schools like Penn State and Ohio State are open admission, so your kid can't really be too dumb to attend.