Need some help, saw a cute guy on a run and figured out who he is. But how to proceed?

Do not post again without pics and PRs.

Sorry.. no pics.

Guys get approached so infrequently that there is almost no way you can screw it up. He will be flattered and giddy no matter what.

Except how do I do it when I've only seen him by pure chance and have no idea if I will run into him again? And if I do see him, what should I say?

I assume you are a woman and women can not be "creepy." Whatever you do the guy will be totally fine with it. If he did the exact same thing to you then it would probably be labeled as "creepy."

TLDR; Women=not creepy, Men=creepy.

Stalk your way to finding out his cell phone #, then text him some topless selfies.

Okay seriously guys, any innovative ideas to get a chance to talk to him without it appearing like I totally stalked him/looked him up?

As soon as you noticed him running, you should have examined all the people that ran along any potential Strava segments around the time and place you saw him. This approach would have left a lot less to chance. But good detective work nonetheless.

Research his life, find an ex GF and ask her advice.

It's simple really

(Creepiness) = 12 - (Your Attractiveness)

Keeping a creepiness level less than 5 is a good rule of thumb.

Note that there is a minimum creepy level of 2 (slightly creepy) for even a perfect 10. However, you can be only a 7 and still be proceed.

the only way you could eff this up is if he's gay, or you're ugly. #honesty

FB message. Say hi, pretending it's a random hi.

That seems wayyy too weird, to randomly message hi...

waycool wrote:

Okay seriously guys, any innovative ideas to get a chance to talk to him without it appearing like I totally stalked him/looked him up?

Ahhh, didn't you say something earlier about Facebook? Couldn't you send a friend request? After he accepts you could send him a private message akin to an e-mail.

Seriously not sure why you're having a hard time with this.

Interested in talking to somebody but not sure where to start? How about "hi"

If thar seems insuffient, follow it up with "I'm _______, I saw you doing ________ and just wanted to introduce myself to other people in the area also interested in ________."

Anybody with moderate social abilities will respond with a conversation about that shared interest.

Or if that feels to strong, next time you see him running or finishing a run, ask him how his run was. Of you live near each other, presumably he recognizes you too and it won't come across as weird.

Also to there person who said women can't come across as creepy, you're dead wrong. There were definitely some creeper girls at my college. The difference was they didn't leave the target of their affection feeling unsafe.

Yes but how do I know I will run into him again? It seems even creepier to hang out around his building in the hopes that I will see him.

Do you have any friends? You could take the junior high approach and get one of them to message him for you saying they have a friend who thinks he's the balls (or something) and would he be interested in meeting her. Chicks can get away with that kind of stuff.

waycool wrote:

Yes but how do I know I will run into him again? It seems even creepier to hang out around his building in the hopes that I will see him.

I thought you've already seen him a few times?

You definitely shouldn't just hang around his building.

If you don't think you'll meet in passing again soon, just message him on Facebook, you shouldn't feel weird about that. "I saw you running the other day. I'm also into running and live in the building next door. I meant to introduce myself the other day, but you seemed busy talking to somebody after your run and I didn't want to interrupt. I'd love to get a drink sometime, if you're interested, I'm new to the area and looking to meet people with common interests."

Regarding the Facebook stalking, in this age it isn't creepy to look somebody up, it's pretty normal behavior.

It is creepy to look at every picture somebody you don't know posts and lurk for months. Introduce yourself now and that would be normal. Stalk him for months and be creepy.

If he is single and interested, he'll probably either take you up on your request or invite you to a group hangout or something. Maybe you'll hit it off romantically, maybe as friends, or maybe not at all.

Good luck.

As long as you're at - or better above - his league in looks you can say pretty much anything to initiate a conversation and he'll probably be receptive.