Snooped through gf phone

Just like James Wiener did. Pilfered his wife's email PW, and downloaded the messages on his computer. He wanted to know if she was on to his sexting of little girls, or he could get more bold with his sexting.

That.. I'm not quite sure how that applies to my specific situation..

How far did they go?

Snooping. You are guilty. So is Wiener. Is that really too much for you to grasp?

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That I'm not sure of. It just says I would be heart broken if I found out. I'm just not sure if I should come out and say I was going through her phone or if I should bring up a scenario and see her reaction?

I know I'm guilty. But Im asking if i should confront her or pretend like it never happened.

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

I know I'm guilty. But Im asking if i should confront her or pretend like it never happened.

Get a divorce. Same as Wiener's wife.

Would you break up with her if she cheated on you? If so, you know she did, so dump her. Or, go ahead and tell her you know, then dump her. But, she might deny it, turn it around on you, etc. so better to just dump her.

If you are ok with her cheating on you, do nothing.

The tough part is is idk what actually happened but then again Id be pissed all to hell if all they did was just kiss so I guess that answers that..

It was a long time ago, if you can let it go, let it go. Let it go forever, forget all about it.

If you think it's going to gnaw at you forever, confront her soon, don't let it fester.

If you opt for the latter solution DO NOT let her turn the tables and make it about you snooping at her phone, what you did was kind of crummy, but doesn't rise to the level of infidelity.

Don't try coming up with some nutty parallel construction ruse to try and convince her that you found out through some other means than snooping at her phone. You'll make it too complex and unbelievable and it will blow up in your face. Take the heat for looking at the phone, and press the infidelity.

Thank you. This was the direction I was looking for.

Whatever you do, just remember that the fact that russian hackers hacked your gfs old phone to produce this information invalidates whatever contents you find in there.

This is known.

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

The tough part is is idk what actually happened

What do the communications suggest? Was it clear at the time you two were monogamous?

Like men, women cheat, so, I'm not sure what you are going to accomplish bringing it up. If she has problems with the truth, they will come up in other ways.

the messages implied they had sex or damn near close to it

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

the messages implied they had sex or damn near close to it

Put this to good use and run your next race on pure hate

You gonna be able to trust her again? I wouldn't. I'd bail for sure.

tough decision wrote:

DO NOT let her turn the tables and make it about you snooping at her phone, what you did was kind of crummy, but doesn't rise to the level of infidelity.

I disagree.

So she made out with a guy when you had barely started dating. She could still love you, trust you and be a loyal partner for life.

You, on the other hand, did a real dirtbag thing, deep into the relationship. She can't trust you and you clearly don't really love her.

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

the messages implied they had sex or damn near close to it

Aha I get it. You inferred the messages implied they had sex.

I'd like to think I'd get a pass if had a traditional break-up sex romp around the time I decided to go monogamous.

Have an honest hour. Think of something bad you've done but definitely not something like cheating. Like lying about being some place or doing something but obviously just really a white lie. Maybe she'll feel guilty enough and speak up...or probably not.