Ex wants me to father a child that she will raise without me.

You will be on the hook for child support. You will feel attachment to the child.

Bad idea all around.

worst idea ever.

No the mother cannot waive child support.

I have to imagine this is a troll thread. No one is this thoughtless.

If by some chance you are serious, I'll tell you this would be the greatest mistake you make in your adult life.

Forget the fact that you will be on the hook for child support. This can be avoided by just having her sign a contract that she is foregoing her right to child support.

The real problem here is this type of stupid woman should not be allowed to have children. She has no morals and would raise her child be to a total piece of turd. And you should not be allowed to have children either for being dumb enough to humor this idea.

Not possible to "waive" child support.But a nice little troll attempt.

In your little imaginary scenario she could come after you at any point and sue for back child support. Also, the child could try to connect with you as an adult.. it would be a total mess.

but good try

I have done something like this so I know what I am talking about

1) You ABSOLUTELY CANNOT CONCEIVE NATURALLY if you want to be "off the hook". The ONLY way to be truly off the hook is to have a binding legal agreement in place prior to conception AND USE A FERTILITY CLINIC TO DONATE SPERM AND HAVE AN IN VITRO FERTILIZATION.

2) Please reread 1) . You are totally screwed if you do not follow 1)

3) After birth (assuming you go through with it) you will have to cut off all relations with the woman. Otherwise you will form some attachment to the child and things will get messy for everyone ESPECIALLY THE CHILD WHO DOES NOT DESERVE THE MESS YOU WILL CREATE.

4) If you are willing to get your legal bases covered AND go through a fertiliity clinic AND cut off all ties to the woman after the deed is done AND you are convinced that the woman is not, and will not become, bat shit crazy then go for it.

5) If not 100% solid on ALL of the qualifiers in 4) then you are the biggest fool on the planet and deserve what is coming to you (BUT THE CHILD DOES NOT SO DON'T DO IT)

Next time you plan on hooking up and she claims to still be on the pill, just don't.

Mr. Obvious wrote:

worst idea ever.

No the mother cannot waive child support.

Yes, the woman CAN waive child support but ONLY under the conditions that I specified in my post above.

If everything goes as you plan, it will be the greatest mistake of your adult life.

My guess is that it won't go anywhere close to how you plan and it will be more like the mistake the woman who pushed her stroller and child onto the elevator that wasn't there sized mistake.

"I'll tell you this would be the greatest mistake you make in your adult life."

CatlitterHotub wrote:

Not possible to "waive" child support.But a nice little troll attempt.

In your little imaginary scenario she could come after you at any point and sue for back child support. Also, the child could try to connect with you as an adult.. it would be a total mess.

but good try

Yes it very definitely IS possible to waive child support as I've correctly pointed out (but only under the circumstances that i have also correctly pointed out).

Get it down in a legal document before you knock her up (if you are even capable).

Mr. Obvious wrote:

worst idea ever.

No the mother cannot waive child support.

She can opt not to file for child support. However, OP is on the hook if she wants child support. Why wouldn't she? Once she figures out how expensive they are, I bet she'll change her tune.

This whole setup reaks. She may still try to steal your sperm if you decide to say no. Why would she burden herself with the work of a single parent? That setup makes it so much harder for her to find a potential mate in the future. Stop hooking up with her.

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jamintrump wrote:

Get it down in a legal document before you knock her up (if you are even capable).

This ^ is NOT good enough. If you see a competent lawyer who deals with these kinds of things they will tell you what I am telling you here: THE CHILD MUST NOT BE CONCEIVED BY NATURAL MEANS. YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST USE A FERTILITY CLINICAND have a binding legal agreement in place for this to work.

I like this thread wrote:

She can opt not to file for child support. However, OP is on the hook if she wants child support. Why wouldn't she? Once she figures out how expensive they are, I bet she'll change her tune.

This whole setup reaks. She may still try to steal your sperm if you decide to say no. Why would she burden herself with the work of a single parent? That setup makes it so much harder for her to find a potential mate in the future. Stop hooking up with her.

11/10

INCORRECT! If done properly (see my post above) the OP can be totally off the hook for child support.

sbeefyk1 wrote:

Forget the fact that you will be on the hook for child support. This can be avoided by just having her sign a contract that she is foregoing her right to child support.

The real problem here is this type of stupid woman should not be allowed to have children. She has no morals and would raise her child be to a total piece of turd. And you should not be allowed to have children either for being dumb enough to humor this idea.

I am pretty sure that one cannot get out of child support with a contract in any state.

Stay away from her. Do not have sex with her.

This may be the worst idea possible. I hope this is a joke.

If not, you are both terrible human beings and neither of you should bring another person into the world.

luv2run wrote:

sbeefyk1 wrote:

Forget the fact that you will be on the hook for child support. This can be avoided by just having her sign a contract that she is foregoing her right to child support.

The real problem here is this type of stupid woman should not be allowed to have children. She has no morals and would raise her child be to a total piece of turd. And you should not be allowed to have children either for being dumb enough to humor this idea.

I am pretty sure that one cannot get out of child support with a contract in any state.

Stay away from her. Do not have sex with her.

You are WRONG. Stop posting about things you are "pretty sure" about. Because what that really means is that you have no idea what you are talking about but just like to spout off.

ONE ABSOLUTELY CAN GET OUT OF CHILD SUPPORT IF ONE GOES ABOUT THIS IN THE CORRECT WAY.

This is a terrible idea as others have said. You could move on, forget about it, and in 10 years get sued for back child support as a deadbeat dad. That's entirely apart from personal or emotional entanglements and moral responsibility for your child.

It is foolish stuff like this that keeps family lawyers in business.

Only have a child if you are willing to be a father to the child and accept financial responsibility.

Westside wrote:

This may be the worst idea possible. I hope this is a joke.

If not, you are both terrible human beings and neither of you should bring another person into the world.

INCORRECT! Some people in some circumstances are very capable and very willing to be outstanding single parents. IF that is the case here then it can be a great idea. The trick is to know if this is the case here (and to go about it the right way).