Anyone cut a friend out of their life because of all the stupid crap they say to you?

Did you ever think he's getting tired of hearing all your whining about family drama, etc.

potkettleblack wrote:

Did you ever think he's getting tired of hearing all your whining about family drama, etc.

He brings it up. I almost never do.

I cut ties with one of my friends shortly after this post.

http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=6194975

He forged a marriage with that woman who cheated on him. He was desperate. Then he complains about how controlling and disrespectful she is. Then the kid first kid ended up with a near terminal illness and his money was wiped. The wife demands $1500 earrings. The daughter requires $14,000 or more surgeries. They host fund raisers at the same establishments they wrote complaints about online 3 years ago.

He did the same thing to me your friend is doing to you. He blurts out really stupid stuff. He acts like he is on some higher level because he's married when I live in a nicer place, have nicer things and more disposable income. Why? Because I not only have a sane lady friend but I make better decisions with my life and finances. Back to the blurting thing -- it was really pissing me off and finally something small pushed me over the edge. Everytime we went out together all he did was complain about relationship woes that I saw coming for years beforehand and then I'd end up bankrolling everything we did. Not that I mind but it was just depressing to be around him and then he had thever audacity to give me unwanted advice. Did I mention he was a triathlete and bragged about that too before the kid had health issues? Imagine a former D1 runner (average/above average) rolling their eyes at triathlete accomplishments.

i'm cutting you out. that's a gross wall of text.

Yeah telling him off would be not the way to go. No need to go around making enemies. Especially if you have mutual friends, no one needs that kind of drama in their life. If you value his friendship put it out there and explain your frustrations with the stuff he's saying; good friends respect each other and trust each other to talk about things like that. But if you don't think that would be worth it then that means your friendship isn't really that close, and I'd just stop making the initiative to see/talk to him. I've got some friends who I love but under certain circumstances drive me completely nuts. What I do is just avoid them in one-on-one situations but we're still friendly around each other with mutual friends. Trust me never burn bridges if its at all humanly possible, but it's ok to let a friendship drift apart, and it sounds like you need to before you end up hating each others' guts.

Cool Story brah

I defriend people on FB when I really want to teach them a lesson.

Why do you have to put effort into "cutting someone out"? I have a lot of friends I like. Finding time to see those people is hard. I know other people I like less, so, with limited time, I just don't ever see them. I wish I had more time to hang out with the the people who I enjoy being with. There is just no way I'd waste my time with someone who pissed me off. Sounds like you need more friends.

Wisdom. Take your friend in much smaller doses. You'll be glad to see him and there will be more to catch up on and you will laugh about how serious this all seemed.

Just get rid of him gradually.4 days a week,3,2,1 and then none at all.He's not going 2 change.I had similar problems.It's a great boost and feeling of happiness to be free from such people.

Never going 2 change

I have cut out friends for a variety of reasons, including ones that run their mouth without any awareness of they are saying and see no reason to take my suggestions for being more conscious when expressing their thoughts.

As much as you want him to change, he probably will not until he realizes that he has driven everyone out of his life and the remaining people in his life are kinda degenerates. Then he might realize that he is a degenerate himself. Or not.

Anyways, don't let anyone else bring you down. I know it can be hard to cut out someone whose company you once enjoyed and might care for, but it might be necessary for your own development as a person.

Unfortunately, I am more similar to the friend you want to unfriend.

Lost my two best college friends college that way and others in the many years that have passed since then.

I know exactly what you mean when you refer to stupid stuff. I do not really know why I was saying it. The memories are painful to me as I still value those friendships. It feels like someone close who had passed away.

While painful, it would not have been fair to expect those friends to keep me around. I think I would have probably damaged their lives. I was not like that towards everyone. Oddly, I was behaving that stupid only towards those who were close to me. I have since changed but that was a very slow process.

If I may suggest an alternative for you, take his calls but stop initiating calls. I think that telling him off may prevent him from looking in the mirror. Years from now, he will thank you that you were gentle and you helped him get on track.

Now, as best as I can understand it, I was doing such things so that those friends would see me more human. I grew to greater success faster than they did and I started out in poverty. I had the right justification, right objective but wrong implementation.

To me, it sounds like your friend likely knows best. Sometimes the truth hurts. Sounds like you can't handle the truth and you keep acting like a jack asz repeating the same mistakes over and over. My bet is that this friend has actually cut you out of his life because he/she can't handle the self created drama you have. Does this sound accurate?

I say more stupid crap than any of my friends, so eventually I had to cut myself out of my life. The logistics were difficult, but I think it has been good for the both of me.

Yes.