Girlfriend claims she used to be suicidal, what do I do?

Tell her to tell it to her new man. You're out.

craycray laylay wrote:

Tell her to tell it to her new man. You're out.

This.

Yeah, when I clicked on this I thought you meant that she felt comfortable enough with you to admit that she used to be suicidal, and I was going to tell you to be supportive and understanding because that can be very common for people when they're younger but can become less of an issue with time and/or therapy.

But what you've described is immature crap. You should move on and not feel guilty in the slightest.

I echo what the previous three posters said. Get rid of her.

She's manipulating you to justify her innapropriate behavior. She'll cheat on you eventually. She doesn't respect you or desire you on a primal sexual level. If she did she wouldn't have behaved this way. Can you provide details of how she flirted with the guy and how you caught her?

Before ending your relationship based off of what a bunch of 12 year olds on letsrun just told you to do, try discussing it with her in more detail. Be understanding, listen to what she has to say, but at the same time make it clear that having a troubling past doesn't warrant her to do stuff like that. It's not fair to you that she did that, but it'd be just as unfair to not discuss it and just dump her over it.

kod3200 wrote:

Before ending your relationship based off of what a bunch of 12 year olds on letsrun just told you to do, try discussing it with her in more detail. Be understanding, listen to what she has to say, but at the same time make it clear that having a troubling past doesn't warrant her to do stuff like that. It's not fair to you that she did that, but it'd be just as unfair to not discuss it and just dump her over it.

Agreed with this. I haven't read all the responses yet, and I'm not insulting others, but you shouldn't end a relationship without talking to your GF based on LetsRun advice, no matter how well-meaning it was.

I get being insecure and having morbidly low self-esteem and then flirting with others because of it. I've been guilty of it. I think you should try to address the root issue with her, but I agree that you should make it firm that you aren't going to date someone who will cheat on you.

Yeah, please shed a little more light on the details of this interaction between she and this fellow you referenced. It's hard to pass judgement unless we get the true context or nature of the interaction. You may just be sensitive or protective in nature. If it makes you feel better, I am protective when I truly like a girlfriend. If it's not something I'm into long term then I don't care very much.

kod3200 wrote:

Before ending your relationship based off of what a bunch of 12 year olds on letsrun just told you to do, try discussing it with her in more detail. Be understanding, listen to what she has to say, but at the same time make it clear that having a troubling past doesn't warrant her to do stuff like that. It's not fair to you that she did that, but it'd be just as unfair to not discuss it and just dump her over it.

Apparently your girlfriend posts on LRC

Run away from the manipulative nut job and don't look back. It will only get worse.

Encourage her to regain her confidence with as many guys as possible. Tell her that relationships come and go but that she can only be successful if she is whole. She will not disagree with you if you agree that she is doing the right thing right now.

... and that is precisely what is right for you, too.

The answer is quite obvious. You're out.

Key words USED TO BE.

Meaning she no longer is, it is in the past.

So it has no relevancy, same as I broke my are 30 years ago, it is fully healed, so no longer a problem in any way.

1) Drop her like a bad habit.

There is no #2.

TheL wrote:

So basically I caught my girlfriend kinda messing around with another dude (sounds bad, but it was flirtatious, not sexual)

Pics? (Pantees?)

kod3200 wrote: but it'd be just as unfair to not discuss it and just dump her over it.

So, discuss it, have make-up sex, then dump her?

Honestly, flirting with another guy isn't the end of a relationship. If OP isn't secure enough with the partner doing some flirting that's on OP to work out. It's up to the OP to communicate with his partner about what works for him.

If she's still doing flirting/more than flirting behind his beck AFTER setting some rules that are agreed upon, then it's over. And plenty of men and women STILL go sneaking around after agreeing to acceptable behaviour.

The key is to communicate, trust, but be able to verify.

Alright we need to sort some things out here brah.

Problem 1: She is a cheater.

Problem 2: She claims to have been suicidal

Problem 3: She is a liar

Now the third one is redundant considering it coincides with the first. And while I know you said it wasn't sexual, emotional cheating is a real thing so this floozy is a cheater. The suicide thing is something I've never come in touch with, but my friend dealt with two crazy girls who said similar things. Considering its been four years since that and they're still alive, there is reason to be dubious of your cheating girlfriends confession/defense mechanism.

You sit in a place of uncertainty. You're unsure who this person is. It's time we figure out if this tramp is all bark and no bite. Some people will argue vehemently against what I'm about to to tell you, but disregard their opinions. This is about you and the TRUTH.

Here we go.

Rule 1: COOKIE CRUMB TRAILS

Leave loaded guns on various items of furniture and hang nooses(the plural is intentional) from the ceiling around your place.

RULE 2: BE CREATIVE!

Mix the liquor cabinet with the medicine cabinet, a fresh pack of razors on the bathtub edge.

RULE 3: MAKE IT CASUAL

You want to make it seem inconspicuous too. Should she ask about your new "lifestyle", just wing it. If she's really a kook, she'll really be thinking about how she can get her hands on the loaded luger she found between the sofa cushions.

Watch her closely so that you can prevent her from actually doing harm to herself, but you must hold the presence of a ghost. She can't know your around, that'll break the genuineness of it. This is all about the TRUTH. Should she actually do something you will now know that problem 2 is a real problem and problem 3 is no longer as big of a problem.

Once things have been sorted out you've got to leave her. She went around pushing it with other dudes and then laid that psycho jargon on you. This is a running forum. GTFOT

Pics? Is she hot enough to tolerate her being a manipulative B.

People with morbidly low self esteem don't flirt. Stop enabling this behavior.