Have you ever made a grand romantic gesture? How did it go?

She's not that into you. Move on to the next one.

Exactly what kind of "grand gesture" do you have in mind?

(this should be amusing)

I hope you are trolling. Don't embarrass yourself. Don't force her to come out and and say "I'm not interested ". She's already said it in a way to try to let you down gently.

Not how females work. You have one choice - completely blow her off

Work on your oral hygiene before going in for a kiss.

You bet it worked out. It got me a 35 year paid vacation, and now I'm back and she isn't with another dude. That's right! She's been saving herself for me!

I stole a blue french horn for my girl. Took awhile for things to work out, though.

Dick-in-a-box

J. Hinckley wrote:

You bet it worked out. It got me a 35 year paid vacation, and now I'm back and she isn't with another dude. That's right! She's been saving herself for me!

POD

Rod Dixon's mustache wrote:

I have an idea for a big romantic gesture that she would like, but I figure the failure rate is pretty high here.

Why would you care about the failure rate if the odds are that she will be out of your life anyway?

You basically have two options:

No romantic gesture > small chances of friendship with high chance of nothing,

Romantic gesture > small chance of romance, small chance of friendship with high (maybe higher) chances of nothing.

Unless your romantic gesture involves spending a lot of money, a risk of massive public embarrasement or the use of Rohypnol, I'd say try it!

I was going to say that killing an ex boyfriend of hers that she hates would make quite an impression.

But that Reagan assassination attempt comment was a much more clever post.

Ignore her and move on.

But don't be surprised if she comes back, and when she does be rude to her. She will like it more so. See some girls are broken, some are dark souls, sadly.

Anyhow, if she is really dark then move on, I mean run. Run, unless you want to be thrown in jail under false pretenses.

Don't worry, she'll be - how do I say this - she will be beaten by some motorcycle biker for the next decade. Good for her. You can't save her.

Do you come from a broken family, if so seek the same thing but in a different girl.

Do you have married parents?!

If so, then seek a similar girl.

Anyhow, they all turn lazy and start reading trash magazines. Hope all works out, be your best and make good offspring with someone that matches you.

Rod Dixon's mustache wrote:

I have an idea for a big romantic gesture that she would like, but I figure the failure rate is pretty high here. My intentions are good too, as I am just trying to keep seeing her and not trying to sleep with her or full-on date her.

Any similar situations or advice?

Whatever the "gesture" is, perform it with the same limp wrist with which you wrote this and you will both be fine.

Rod Dixon's mustache wrote:...the day following our second date she told me she "really think we'd be better as friends." in a text.

This very small detail is HUGE red flag. The fact that she told you this IN A FREAKING TEXT is an indisputable indication that the woman has absolutely no character, substance, human decency or consideration for anyone other than herself. People who do this are unquestionably obtuse, and the fact that they don't have the courage to have important conversations in a face-to-face situation proves that they are the scum of the earth.

So don't be a pansy. She did you favor. Thank her by never seeing or speaking to her again.

This guy knows what he is talking about.

Better question:

Does the OP want an STD or VD?

Do you want Gon-her-Rhia?

Do you want clam-y-dia?

If so, then stay with her and keep making romantic gestures.

As a "friend" try to arrange some casual meeting, like a lunch or seeing a movie.

Then just don't show up without calling or texting. Then make up an excuse that you forgot or something came up.

Do not initiate any more contact after that and generally avoid her for a while.

Make her be the aggressor. If she doesn't reach out again the move on.

The grand romantic gesture is only for women that are already really into you.

It only backfires when they are not too interested.

Bought her a bra and matching thong. She wore them.

Rod Dixon's brain wrote:

She's not that into you. Move on to the next one.

This ^

Seriously, how could anything be more obvious?

Don't listen to these naysayers, OP. Go for it! She is just playing hard to get. I recommend declaring your love at a huge sporting event, preferably one that is being televised. Good luck!