I found out 2 days ago and am just blown away. I thought I was cautious and used protection. Once or twice it broke but she swore she was on the pill. What I am struggling with is her mind was made up on keeping it before she even told me. I would expect my input would be valued before it was totally dismissed. I feel like I am on a train that I can't control at this point. She wants to tell my family but I'm definitely not ready for that. My worst fear is that this was actually planned on her part. She's dropped hints that she wanted to start a family and she's felt her clock ticking since she turned 30. Should I confront her on my fear of her motivation? The worst part is I keep finding things to read like this...