Embarking on a relationship with a non-runner

You are doomed. Give up now. Just ask Jamin.

are you looking for a training partner or a life partner -- ask yourself that question.

Things happen for reason they say. I'm sure there are books that explain this subject. Perhaps take up a new hobby to supplement your knowledge and have more conversations? Don't give up on her if you truly like her and she back. If things don't work out, that's the way it was meant to be. Perhaps time should tell the tale.

Then again, I'm just a 19yr. old unemployed (though has gone through a job interview yesterday) autistic hobbyjogger reading and writing on letsrun :)

relationship advise though the internet is really impossible. in general reading a lot of different staff may be a good groundwork to talk about a lot of different things. a good general education should do that as well. talk about what acitivites you two want to do together and talk about those activities. talk about thinkgs that on your mind. dont try to make up staff to talk about you dont care about.

It's good to open new doors in your life. I married a non-runner (a swimmer) and my life has become much more balanced. At the very least, it's important to be open and honest about what you want and what you are thinking about. If you have hidden feelings that you can't share with your partner, then your relationship may be headed for trouble.

As a runner in a relationship with a non-runner, though, I strongly suggest promoting the pattern of running as a priority in your life and cultivate that priority while balancing your relationship. That said, down the road your life priorities will be changing. I'm married with three kids and running is still a priority, but it's balanced with everything else. I try to get my runs out of the way early, being home by 5:45 so that my runs are mine and I'm not taking away from the family time.... Well, I go to bed early, too, so the time has to come from somewhere, but I'm not ditching everybody at 7am to go for my daily run while everyone else is getting ready for work and school...

Ask her what she is interested in, and then learn more about it. Ask her to teach you about things she's interested in. Go to some new places that you can explore together: outdoors could be hiking, camping, kayak, zoo, or inside stuff like museums, plays, concerts, etc. Then you can talk about the places that you are and the things you are doing.

Perhaps the ladies who frequent these boards care to chime in?

Devastator wrote:

Perhaps the ladies who frequent these boards care to chime in?

Ok, I'll take a stab. JUST RELAX. You've just started hanging out, and you like her and are already friends who get each other. You don't have to decide if anything's a deal breaker right now. And running as a shared interest should never be a deal breaker, similar to any other interest. It's more important that you share the same values, and respect who the other person is.

You can still talk about running in moderation--it is part of you; just gauge how much bandwidth she has for this. If she cares about you, she will be accommodating. The longer you are in a relationship, the more of what you have in common is your relationship and the past and current past and everything that you've gone through together. You will have inside jokes and shorthand communication that has nothing to with empirical knowledge of anything. You should also have friends that you can talk about when you get back home together. The building blocks of life.

If she were a runner, you wouldn't be able to run with her anyway because every guy on this board, as we all know, is just SO DARN FAST and she would never ever understand what that entails.

She doesn't sound like a good match. You should move on.

Do you mind forwarding her contact info?