A guy asked me out and asked if I wanted to get coffee or lunch or go on a run. Thoughts on this?

getting advice from lrc... wrote:

...I don't want it to be a slow jogfest or not a real run.

Then you don't want it to be a run. Pick lunch or coffee

True. But if he was fast enough to keep up and chat, I find that running is one of the best ways to know someone and the conversation gets past small talk much more quickly (I dislike small talk). Plus he goes up in my book if he can keep up on a run.

How fast are you?! Also you can't run a little slower if he isn't as fast?

Look at it this way if you do lunch or coffee there is a 0% chance you get your run in on the date. If you go for a run there is an X% chance. Let's say 50% chance you get your run in on the date.

Whatever it is it's still bigger than 0. But please don't drop him.

I'm not super fast but I find that a lot of people can't even keep up with more than one mile at 8 minute pace...

There was another guy a few weeks ago who asked (or shall I say insisted) on going for a run with me. It wasn't an obvious ask out so I assumed he just wanted company for a run. He wasn't fat and said he also played soccer. But sure enough after one mile at a slow 8:30 pace, he stopped and told me to continue ahead.

I don't talk while I run, so a running date would be a disaster for me. Someone trying to have a conversation with me while I'm trying to run would be awful.

I'd suggest driving somewhere nice for a run and gently heading off on your separate ways, then meeting up for coffee afterwards. Go somewhere with a café. Otherwise, just go for the coffee.

Maybe I could say sure, how far do you usually run? and get a gauge of it from that.

Jamin is that you?

OP, this thread is useless without your pics.

^this

And just check athlinks.

Why are you making this so difficult? Can't you just tell him that ok, let's go for a run and then tell him the distance and the time. E.g 8 miles in 65 minutes.

Jamin clicks off 36 second 300s in PRACTICE, I'm sure whatever you have in mind for your run-date will be well within his abilities.

Might be too late now--you should have chuckled and asked him about his running habits casually, all the while calculating in your head. You could ask now, but it will be more obvious that you're trying to judge his speed.

How do all these men know you run?

First date with my wife was a run. She thought I might be poser as a runner but went along with it.

He's not on athlinks, if he runs he doesn't do it competitively. He knows I run because a mutual friend suggested that we might be a match and must have mentioned it to him. I think the other guy knew I ran because he saw me after a run in my running clothes.

Nice one OP. No girl ever uses the words jogfest.

6/10

This is the dumbest troll post ever.

I want to go for a run with a guy but don't know if he can keep up...very few ppl can keep up - advice?

My advice is try harder for a 1/10

A guy asked you out for coffee, lunch or go on a run and you choose run?

Choose lunch and tell him you are in the mood (and you don't know why) for Golden Corral.

If he says "Yes" or "Okay" to that, don't go out with him. No guy that is fit, in his right mind or trying to impress a woman is taking her to GC on a first date.

If he says "Are you sure you want Golden Corral", respond yes and if he agrees to it, see above.

If he says "I was thinking some place nicer", mention a nice seafood place on the water (assuming you live near the water). These are usually expensive and you can see if he is serious or not based upon this.

Devastator wrote:

Nice one OP. No girl ever uses the words jogfest.

6/10

Evidence never lies. Never.

Op, if there is any chance you are not a bloke with a troll habit, just remember this is not CSI. Just ask.