I've slowly become really successful. All my old friends and family hate me.

If you do well you have to share your success with your family and friends. Yes, that means being generous to them, both financially and give a lot of yourself.

You will have to learn that to become really successful.

Not sure what the point of the story is, but I went through something very similar (without any level of fame). Not being smug, but my job is far more exciting than anything going on in my family's life. I don't think anybody has ever asked me a question about my job. I ask every family member dozens of questions about what's going on with them. Very odd, I'm sure they're intimidated and a bit jealous, and not really crazy about the fact that you're more successful.

"You're not a millionaire until you give a million to others"

-My grandpa. Multimillionaire back in the 1980s and 90s before he passed on 😞

I love threads like these. You're a little vague, though. What do you do, or, at least, what industry are you in? What do your friends and family criticize you for? What is their method of attack? Surely they're not saying stuff like "god you're so rich, you're really screwing everything up!" What is this "new lifestyle?" Do you work at some perceived-to-be-evil corporation? (probably not, you wouldn't be famous). Are you a porn star or something? That would make some degree of sense and would explain the "small amount of fame" line, though I'm not sure how much they make. Are you a troll? They're widely despised and often do quite well for themselves (witness Trump). More info is needed.

zephito wrote:

I love threads like these. You're a little vague, though. What do you do, or, at least, what industry are you in? What do your friends and family criticize you for? What is their method of attack? Surely they're not saying stuff like "god you're so rich, you're really screwing everything up!" What is this "new lifestyle?" Do you work at some perceived-to-be-evil corporation? (probably not, you wouldn't be famous). Are you a porn star or something? That would make some degree of sense and would explain the "small amount of fame" line, though I'm not sure how much they make. Are you a troll? They're widely despised and often do quite well for themselves (witness Trump). More info is needed.

He won a Pulitzer Prize. For fiction writing on the internet.

OP: This should have been 0/10, but, you snagged some bored college students decompressing after semester's end. Good for you.

successful and generous guy wrote:

If you do well you have to share your success with your family and friends. Yes, that means being generous to them, both financially and give a lot of yourself.

You will have to learn that to become really successful.

So, basically you mean become a Democrat...

At 29 I was too busy trying to survive. I'm glad you are successful, but its a long way to the finish line.

Hopefully you'll be able to channell you achievement into something positive for those around you. Without losing your "small fortune".

Good luck.

Now get back to work.

Did you become successful by joining the mafia?

That would explain things.

"Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies."

I disagree. I think this is kind of an interesting and a bit creative troll. I'd give him 8.5/10.

zephito wrote:

I love threads like these. You're a little vague, though. What do you do, or, at least, what industry are you in? What do your friends and family criticize you for? What is their method of attack? Surely they're not saying stuff like "god you're so rich, you're really screwing everything up!" What is this "new lifestyle?" Do you work at some perceived-to-be-evil corporation? (probably not, you wouldn't be famous). Are you a porn star or something? That would make some degree of sense and would explain the "small amount of fame" line, though I'm not sure how much they make. Are you a troll? They're widely despised and often do quite well for themselves (witness Trump). More info is needed.

What exactly I do is not important. For a long time I busted my arse and lived very meagerly. I was never struggling to survive or unhappy. I just didn't really have much or conform to the what most people think is important. I read a lot, traveled a lot (not actually very expensive if you do it right), spent a lot of time outside in nature, and talked to a lot of people from all over the world. I started working on several "business" ideas a few years back (I put business in quotes because making money wasn't really the main motivation for them but more a byproduct of me doing what I wanted to do), and I gained quite a bit of income, enough to greatly increase my comfort of living anyway. I visited a lot of my friends around the country, bought a car (a nice but nothing crazy car), changed my residence, spent a few months abroad... Honestly, my life hasn't changed much other than I'm now financially secure, have nicer material possessions (not really much MORE, just nicer), have more time to exercise and sleep, and I have seen the fruits of the my efforts. Most of my friends and family have very typical lives of working 9-5, never really going anywhere or doing anything interesting, always kind of just scraping by financially (due to their poor spending habits), etc, so they look at me as some lucky undeserving schmuck I guess. I don't know.

If ALL your family and (ex) friends hate you, then they don't hate you because you are successful; they hate you because you are worthy of hatred. You own it.

If you lost friends because you became "successful" then your friends are pos. And if you couldn't tell they where pos after befriending them then that means you must be cut from the same cloth, which would make you a pos.

Alan Bennet wrote:

If ALL your family and (ex) friends hate you, then they don't hate you because you are successful; they hate you because you are worthy of hatred. You own it.

Yep. When people say "everyone hates me because I'm successful," usually the reality is that they are hated for some other reason entirely, and they lack the introspect to find the real issue.

If a few people start disliking you when you start making money, sure, maybe they're just jealous. If everyone you know stops liking you, it's probably something else.

Plenty of people are successful. They aren't all friendless and abandoned by their families.

isi wrote:

What exactly I do is not important. For a long time I busted my arse

He does gay porn.

EOT

Must read for the OP.

http://www.cnet.com/news/the-olympic-skier-known-as-spam-king/

Plenty of successful people are liked by their friends. The ones that aren't are usually insufferable, arrogant pricks.

You indicated people didn't really like you before you were successful. It's because you are not likable.

successful and generous guy wrote:

If you do well you have to share your success with your family and friends. Yes, that means being generous to them, both financially and give a lot of yourself.

You will have to learn that to become really successful.

Wow, that is HORRIBLE advice!

Being generous with your time and attention is a good thing for anyone. But being generous financially with friends and family is just about the most idiotic idea I can think of.

lack of introspect wrote:

Alan Bennet wrote:

If ALL your family and (ex) friends hate you, then they don't hate you because you are successful; they hate you because you are worthy of hatred. You own it.

Yep. When people say "everyone hates me because I'm successful," usually the reality is that they are hated for some other reason entirely, and they lack the introspect to find the real issue.

If a few people start disliking you when you start making money, sure, maybe they're just jealous. If everyone you know stops liking you, it's probably something else.

Plenty of people are successful. They aren't all friendless and abandoned by their families.

Yup. It reminds me of a few women I know who are moderately successful in business and insist that men won't ask them out because the men are intimidated. Nope, it's because these women are full of themselves.

Anyway, to the OP - Good luck on changing your personality. But whatever you do DO NOT LISTEN TO ANYONE SAYING YOU SHOULD BE GENEROUS AMONG FRIENDS, FAMILY AND ACQUAINTANCES WITH YOUR MONEY. That is pathetic and will only guarantee that you become surrounded by losers with no self-respect who also happen to hate you (not a good combination).