My Girlfriend is negative - what can I do?

Try to be positive. Opposites attract.

leave as soon as you can.

I feel her sucking me

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My wife of 26 yrs is the same. I am a shell of the man i once was. Kick her to the curb

This thread is useless without photos.

You clearly don't know what love is supposed to be. I can tell you it isn't having someone that constantly brings you down. Learn from this relationship, but don't get too involved. DO NOT get her preggers.

Move along and be patient for someone better. You're better off alone than with someone who drains the life out of you.

Cry and self soothe

OP, listen to this dude. He speaks the truth.

Kenyatta Mombatta wrote:

My wife of 26 yrs is the same. I am a shell of the man i once was. Kick her to the curb

Not all negative is bad. The fact that she's HIV negative is a big plus.

She her clips of Carly Fiorina and ask her if that is whom she wishes to be like?

There's no fixing this. Get away from her. It will only get worse.

DUMP THAT BYTCH!

If it's bothering you enough to come ask about it here, it's time to think about getting out of the relationship. You're only six months in and this is just the shit you learn about how someone really is as a partner/person. You haven't reached the point where it seems like it's worth trying to work out, especially with how she responded to your concerns. Too many girls out there to stick with a negative one.

Pretty good advice here already. I'm a pretty negative guy and I know it brings down other people. It's hard to change the way somebody is, so you're probably best off just breaking up.

If you really like her then you need to keep telling her, in more serious ways, how her actions make you feel. Maybe she'll eventually get the message and be sufficiently hurt that she'll break up with you, or she'll actually try to perk up a bit.

Is she hot? I'll take her off your hands...I love negative people. They're hilarious.

Get away now. Trust me. Married 11+ years and I've finally had it. No kids, thank god.

Negative people will stay negative for the rest of their lives. Dump her.

tops wrote:

My girlfriend of six months is super negative. Literally kills my buzz every single time I get positive. If I achieve anything she just deflates it. I am a very positive guy but I feel her sucking me into her realm of negativity and overall depression.

I believe I love her but how do i get out of this constant buzz killing? I brought it up and she replied "Oh i'm so bad killing you buzz. Killing your positivity. Blah Blah Blah."

Throw a guy some advice and i'll take you out for dinner!

When did the negativity start?

Every relationship needs the sexual spark and the politik push to get it secured, but if that's all you have, without shared values, agreeable personality and teamwork, then drama is unavoidable.

There are also two explanations. One, she is tired of you and has made a decision to be attracted to other guys, to the point where she is not even putting up a front with you but can't control herself.

And/or, she lives an unhealthy lifestyle that makes her negative and contributes to negative parts of her personality surging forth.

Girls are always under pressure to look good so many specialize in clothes and makeup but not taking proper physical care of themselves, taking time for recuperation, silence, solitude, tranquility, nature, etc. Instead perpetually caught up in being public all the time and unable to keep out of the rat race and gossip circles.

If she has a good personality and you two share good values, just try to get back in touch with it. Do those activities that reflect that and generate good thoughts and health again. After you start doing that, you can also turn up the dials on romance. Thoughtful surprises, flowers, and also something to make yourself look cool and dashing so you cover that part of her ego that enjoys novelty and hunks

Big Dick Johnson wrote:

I feel her sucking me

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Bump.