tops wrote:
My girlfriend of six months is super negative. Literally kills my buzz every single time I get positive. If I achieve anything she just deflates it. I am a very positive guy but I feel her sucking me into her realm of negativity and overall depression.
I believe I love her but how do i get out of this constant buzz killing? I brought it up and she replied "Oh i'm so bad killing you buzz. Killing your positivity. Blah Blah Blah."
Throw a guy some advice and i'll take you out for dinner!
When did the negativity start?
Every relationship needs the sexual spark and the politik push to get it secured, but if that's all you have, without shared values, agreeable personality and teamwork, then drama is unavoidable.
There are also two explanations. One, she is tired of you and has made a decision to be attracted to other guys, to the point where she is not even putting up a front with you but can't control herself.
And/or, she lives an unhealthy lifestyle that makes her negative and contributes to negative parts of her personality surging forth.
Girls are always under pressure to look good so many specialize in clothes and makeup but not taking proper physical care of themselves, taking time for recuperation, silence, solitude, tranquility, nature, etc. Instead perpetually caught up in being public all the time and unable to keep out of the rat race and gossip circles.
If she has a good personality and you two share good values, just try to get back in touch with it. Do those activities that reflect that and generate good thoughts and health again. After you start doing that, you can also turn up the dials on romance. Thoughtful surprises, flowers, and also something to make yourself look cool and dashing so you cover that part of her ego that enjoys novelty and hunks